family and wedding money ettiquette - grrrrrr

[kittylette]

ok so were getting married next year,

my mums giving us some money when her house is sold (she accepted an offer last month but is stuck in a chain)

our MIL has told us on numerous occasions (before we announced we had set a date) that she has money from her divorce thats she had put away in an account for us when we get married,

so for months now weve been making preperations and struggling to scrape together deposits,

but she hasnt offered us the money

and DF wont ask her if we can still have it,

im not being ungrateful, its wonderful that she would do this for us, its just that its getting to the point where we need some money, and HAVE to know our budget

should i ask her?

its just tahat its been mentoned so many times that is 'there waiting for us' but now things are moving shes not mentioned it,

SIL - her daughter - got married in June and she gave her the £1000 that was put away for her

id feel bad if i thought it was her savings or she needed it but its been put away specifically for this point,

its so hard to discuss money without causing offence!

any suggestions?

thanks

It's a tough one but I think it's up to DF to bring it up. When you say next year do you mean 2008?

Perhaps he could just say that you need to figure out your budget and ask her if she is still able to contribute?

oops no, not next year, this year lol

thats scary! hehe

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Yep time for a cuppa a heart to heart and some practical discussions. Try to be matter of fact about it, she did offer in the first place so time for her to realise you need money now, she might have not realised you are having to pay deposits etc.