Feeling violated when trying for a baby

[elliebe13]

I've just left my emotionally abusive ex husband which I have posted a bit about before. The final straw was finding out he was cheating on me just as we had started trying for baby number two. Luckily we did not conceive as I have had my period.

Still feeling violated that he knew I would not consent if I knew about the other woman and the fact that he was willing to use my body in this way. If you don't have all the facts to make the decision surely it cannot be consent? It is really bothering me. Would love to hear anybody's thoughts on this.

Be thankful for a small, nay large mercy that you aren't carrying.

Poor you:(

It's an interesting point and to be honest, I genuinely don't know the answer.

I hope you're ok though OP

I think I would feel just like you do

What a horrible man and I expect a lot of what should have been enjoyable experiences have been somewhat sullied by his sleazy ways

I can completely understand your feelings.

Legally, the circumstances do not cancel out your consent; it's not illegal to lie in pursuit of consent, except I think about condom use.

But it just adds to the betrayal

I feel very sorry for you OP and hope you are feeling better. Please go and see your GP and ask for some counselling. You openly admit that he is abusive and yet you have continued to try and conceive a child with someone you recognise will cause you (and by association- your children ) harm. This is so wrong on all levels. You don't recognise it. This needs to change. Keeping dcs safe should be your no. 1 priority.