OH's cat waking baby

[Edemummy]

My OH has an old cat whom he loves to bits. He was rescued so we don't know his age. Cat is howling day and night, and we have a 6 month old who I try to sleep train. She was sleeping ok until about a month ago when she was woken up by cat at night and since then seemed to have confused day and night. So we've gone backwards and started sleep training all from 0 again. OH doesn't do it as I am the one with baby at home. A few weeks later I managed to get her sleep back into shape more or less and this morning 5:30 cat came upstairs and woke everyone up again, baby didn't fall back asleep and is winging all day, all day naps are all over the place too.

I want to get rid of the cat (to rehome) but also feel like a really horrible person for feeling this way. Am I overreacting?

if i dont shut my cats in the kitchen, the big ginger fluffy bastard goes and sits on the childrens faces or bites their feet

We don't have a door in the kitchen! :(

Don't have a utility area either, just a living room with the door downstairs, but don't want to move his toilet there for the night.

Feliway is plugged in permanently, and yes I have stopped him coming into our bed since I have moved in with OH.
I think that might have triggered this behaviour, when the cat had to start sharing his man with someone else.

AliceinUnderpants the answer to your questions is - i don't know what I would if one of my children would wake the other one up... As I am not in that situation I didn't really think of that. Definitely not get rid... I will be quite open with you cats and children are not equally dear to me, I love my child a lot more than any cat.

Can the cat jump? Given that it's elderly I thought maybe not, then a stair gate in the kitchen doorway could keep him in the kitchen?

Ede, this part stood out to me Yes it is OH's cat he had him before we even met and unfortunately he never took to me and he hates to share OH with anyone

I don't think the cat's disruption has messed up the sleep training, more likely cat is getting the blame as you're not keen on him. I get that not everybody is a cat person but have you tried interacting with him a little more, maybe during nap times for your DC a cuddle and a few treats? Cats are amazingly sensitive and intuitive creatures and I think he is sensing your frustration / annoyance

My DH couldn't abide cats until our mog entered our life but these days he seeks out cats to stroke fuss over.

Ede I had this with my bastard cat, which I really loved dearly, when my daughter was a baby. I understand completely how bloody annoying it is to be woken up by the sodding cat When DD was young I lived in a house where it was impossible to trap the cat downstairs overnight, so eventually I bought a pet feeder on a timer so that she didn't need to wake me up to be fed. (XH just slept through it all.)

In your position, I'd put the litter tray in the sitting room overnight, on a plastic sheet in case of digging / poor aim. It's not ideal, but sleep is more important than anything at this stage.