I'm sorry to have to post this but I feel like I'm genuinely struggling mentally and need some advice.
I've posted before about my DP's relationship with a work colleague. I'll call her Jane (not her real name). We all worked together and Jane was in a very junior position. Before she knew we were together she announced her intention to try to sleep with my DP in order to gain promotion.
I (perhaps naively) told DP about this in the hope that he would exercise a bit of caution. Instead, he seemed to do loads more for her. One example of this was driving 30 miles out of the way to get her car MOTd.
He would always explain this away by saying that I was jealous and that he wasn't doing anything wrong. He also said that I had no right to tell him who he could speak to or how much contact he could have with them (he is right). However, what he refused to understand is what I really wanted him to do is treat Jane the same way he treats everyone else (including his friends). He was always going out of his way to help her and it bothered me.
Another example of how he behaved was we were starting to have sex and he suddenly stopped and asked me a question about Jane's bottom.
Possibly against my better judgment, I beleived DP that nothing was going on and accepted that perhaps I had been unreasonable in expecting him to give her a bit of distance.
Anyway, Jane has now left. Talking last night to DP, he got onto the subject of Jane and said that he couldn't even talk to her without me going into a strop (not true). He then informed me that he was sure she had had no intention of sleeping with him as he had invited her on a night out with him and his friend and she had declined.
This was news to me. When I asked why he hadn't mentioned this to me before or invited me he said he thought I had left the office before he invited her to go out.
Am I over-reacting and do you think I might be too controlling? I didn't think I was the jealous type - but I'm told otherwise and perhaps it's true. All opinons (however harsh) welcome.