I have a lovely husband he has the patience of a saint !

[joanna4]

My husband has been told about a really good job opportunity about an hour away from where we live.It is something he has always wanted to do and to be honest our house is up for sale as we are looking to move a couple of miles away from where we are now.
But if he should get this job a better chance of good family life wouldnt involve a commute each day and we have mooted the possibility of moving closer to the job.But tonight i have had a wobble saying how cut off i might feel moving to a village not being as close to friends and family etc although an hour on the train and i could be back or weekends we could come through.The kids are up for it we had a drive over the other day and they totally loved it i did too but then got to thinking about stick to what you know.
I thought he might go a bit mad to be honest but he has said he wont go for it even though he stands an excellent chance of getting it and fulfilling his dream.He also said to me to book driving lessons asap so i could have the option of coming home of free will to see mates etc.One thing we have agreed is that the houseis coming off market today until things are fixed one way or another job wise.I have a job but the difference in pay is twice what i earn and i have good skills and could get another job in same field elsewhere.He also told me he loved me and how i wobbled badly when we bought this house, the week before kids were born and how i was an excellent mother and how it came right and how we have managed to stay married even though his lot said they would give us a year tops (16 ago).Although nothing his resolved yet i just wanted to say what a lovely patient man he is and to ask if any of you have positive tips or relocation stories .
jo

Just wanted to say I am someone who also "wobbles" a bit when faced with change - usually when my dh manages to talk me around we go ahead and I am really glad he got me to change my mind!

Why don't you encourage him to apply for the job anyway, maybe he could commute at the start if he gets it and then think about moving if he is happy with the job. I think it is a big decision to move house, schools etc as well - one step at a time might be better. My dh and I really love where we live and probably would never consider moving now for work - unless it was really something great or to move back closer to family, etc. Also jobs are not as secure these days so we would hate to move for work and find the job only lasted a couple of years (or dh hated it).

Would definitely go for the driving lessons - I didn't learn until my late 20s and was really kicking myself I hadn't learned earlier - it really gives you so much more freedom - even if you don't own a car yourself.

Thanks he i still going to apply and we are waiting it out to see what is what then we are gonna look at the whole house situation you are right one step at once. thanks jo

I think having a wobble is good in a way as you know you are being realistic about moving. That it would be a challenge etc. It could be the best thing you ever do. In life most people regret the things they don't do not the things they do do!

That is it I dont want us to come to the end of our lives with if onlys and what ifs my mate and his family are moving to oz soon he is so focussed about it all I am gonna speak to him tomorrow at work when I see him.