What is he playing at? I'm confused

[Angieyy1]

Iv posted quiet a lot about my recent breakup 7 weeks in

I contacted him last Saturday as I have lots of stuff in his garage and house that I needed to collect.

I sent him a message just to say it's painful that were not speaking after everything we have been through I was unaware he didint love me any more and I just can't switch my feelings off and I respect his decision .... I asked if we could meet to talk to clear the air so I could have some closure and let go of him and to collect my things.

He replied yes I just needed sometime with no contact I was angry with you and still am but that will pass.

I just replied thanks can you let me know when.

I haven't heard anything back I won't text again but I love him and want us to be together but in the same instance if this isn't going to happen I need to just get this over with as I cant let fully go of him at the moment

Just looking for some advice

It really doesn't sound like there's anything to fight for - he's told you how it is - believe him. Go and get your stuff, even if it means doing it when he's out, and let it go, you are only prolonging the agony but you have to move on

Fight for him? What? You can't make him. He's made it clear - I haven't read other threads. Get a friend to collect your things.

Be kind to yourself and stop forcing a reconciliation. You'll feel like crap if he says " look, it's over" and ever more so if you have sex and then he says " look, it's over"

He's told you he needs space. Arrange a friend to do the collection and forget about him for 3 months. Get your life together. Then think 🍸- will he enhance it or am I better off now plus I've been dating and that guy is quite nice maybe nicer than the ex.

I have started to realise.... Only this evening....

I just genuinely wanted to see if there was anything left for us and I guess there isn't.....as he's only ever replied I'm angry with you and needed no contact.

I would of preferred him to just say I meant what I said or something similar as everything was said in anger ...it would of helped me move forward....

I'm not by any means sat at home any more moping around and I'm in a good place at the moment.

Things are going really well with my career, family and I'm starting to be happy in myself ... I'm eating sleeping going to the gym lifting weights everyday

Iv passed my motorbike theory test and have my cbt booked.... I have loads going on... So I am in no way the same state I was in Maybe 4 weeks ago ..

I am quiet strong and bounce back pretty quickly once I know where I stand...

Just wanted to here it from him again when he wasn't angry so I could let go and move forward and I don't mean with another man.

Just been able to let go if that makes sense

OK. So change your thinking and keep that last line firmly in mind.

Remember:

You DO know where you stand. Firmly on you own 2 feet. You are independent and getting happier.

You DO NOT need to put all that on hold in order for some man to validate your life, or to tell you again but in a calm voice that he doesn't want you.

You'll get there, you will just need to keep reminding yourself, you really, really don't have to tie yourself to him any more.

Good luck

Thank you.... I guess I start this evening 😊

Just give the bloke some space and get off his back.
You made a rash decision; perhaps there is more to this than you are letting on.
I don't think you were ever a real match or I think he would have retaliated to your comments and said you were being unreasonable.
I think this relationship has run it's course.
Don't beg for forgiveness, allow yourself to grieve and lick your wounds.

He's asked for nc so give it in spades. If you like send a text " I undertand you want NC - that fine with me - we both need it." And don't contact him again.

Enjoy your plans, Map out your year. Date new guys. If he doesn't contact you that's fine - because you're busy, right?

Thank you all for your opinions I do really appreciate them all.

I'm honestly feeling ok ... I miss him but it's bearable and I'm keeping busy. Iv just been holding on to him in the hope we could possibly work this out that is all.

I'm ok with getting my things when he isn't there now and I Iv come so far fr where I was weeks ago I was in a mess my ent ions were up and down and felt like I had bipolar.

So my post may of come across confusing and contradictory.

When I love I give my all and so when I'm hurt I'm hurt really bad

7 weeks on I can see the progress, we are not fab friends I haven't been on his profile for 5 weeks I deleted my whatsaap ect..... So I'm ok with where I am right now x