How long to get over love affair?

[Lostsorrow]

It lasted a week. Nothing physical / sexual happened. The situation is ridiculous - how can I be destroyed by such a non event?

To make things worse, I got terribly drunk the other night and kept ringing him (he wouldn't answer) and he's furious.

I ended the relationship today. There was no future in it. We are both (unhappily) attached to other people who are unaware of how they have been betrayed.

I've known him for ages and never expected this to happen.

Over the course of this laughably short "love affair" all we did was exchange explicit texts

The whole think is absurd. But I'm in bits. He told me he loved me, which is silly in itself.

Just needed to get this out as there is no one I can talk to IRL.

You will get over it. But it's true what they say, you do need to block and delete all forms of communication.

I found it so hard, even after the discovery. When I blocked him, the temptation was always there to see if he'd tried to make contact. I put an elastic band round my wrist and pinged it everytime I had the urge to unblock him. The urge got less and less. So glad I didn't cave. After all, what would it achieve? He'd still be an arsehole.

Address your marriage issues. If they can be resolved then it's better to be alone for a bit. Avoid married men at all cost. Too much hurt all round. My biggest regret.

Manic episodes are such a bastard aren't they. One good thing you have going is that it sounds like you have some clarity about your condition when you are well. How has your DP reacted to manic behaviour in the past? Incidentally, do you know what triggered your mania this time? I find it can help me in the future to try to figure it out.

BTW I don't think you are a stupid or selfish person, any more than I am. Separating the effects of your bipolar from your personality is hellishly difficult, but you do not sound stupid or selfish.

Thanks guys - have blocked him and so on. I feel better for having done that. Jeez - he wasn't even that attractive paunchy!

Have talked to dh about the sex thing. He seems quite keen to get it on again - says he's been down lately but better now.

Mmm might even treat him to a dirty weekend lol

Sounds good. Is there anything to really tell him about your flirtation?

I don't know if I should mention it - I suppose it was nothing more that about ten (if that) silly emails.

One thing this has taught me is that I would be terrible at having an affair (obviously, a good thing) as the paranoia is just overwhelming. It's such a cruel deceit.