is he a slob?

[gracienine]

I've just started a new relationship (~ a couple of months) and all has been going great so far. When we first started dating I found him handsome, funny, charming and altogether perfect. We have loads in common. He's got almost all the traits I've been looking for in a partner. Perhaps I let myself get too carried away, admittedly.

The thing is that recently some things about him are becoming a massive turn off. I don't know if I am being completely unreasonable and shallow or not - he's such a nice caring guy that I feel genuinely shit for noticing/caring, especially enough to be writing this post!

Things like; he gets food stuck between his teeth. But like, he'll turn up to meet me in the morning with food in his teeth. Which indicates he's not been brushing his teeth? which is a MASSIVE no-no for me, I just really notice dental hygiene. But he always brushes his teeth when we stay overnight together so I don't really get it? he also quite often has bad breath though, not awful but just coffee breath or really garlicky etc... in this vein, he often smells a bit stale or has sleep in his eyes, just seems like he hasn't really washed that carefully.

and also stupid stuff like he is quite open about farting and burping... he's also REALLY OPEN about being naked, which is all well and good, but when he's slouched on the sofa in a completely open dressing gown (in the middle of a bright sunny morning) fiddling with his naked scrotum for a solid twenty minutes whilst i get ready I feel a bit like - come on, are we not even trying anymore?!

I don't know. Please give me a reality check if I'm being hideously shallow. I know I could raise some of these things with me but I can't help but think if a new boyfriend ever criticised my hygiene or slovenliness I'd think 'who the fuck are you to say that to me?!'

[Secretlove]

If you are 'revolted' by him surely it's a non-starter. Cleaning your teeth before you go and meet a new partner is basic surely. I wouldn't mind the nakedness personally but burping and farting, no, very off-putting.

[suspiciousofgoldfish]

Bakeoffcake said it all. If you are marginally revolted two months in, you'll be locking the bedroom door after a year.
(Brilliant post though op, I cannot get the scrotum fiddling image out of my head. Hilarious).
Sorry, not really advice is it...

[patterkiller]

suspicious yup me too. I'm picturing a Viz characture.

[Gwenhwyfar]

"Cleaning your teeth before you go and meet a new partner is basic surely. "

Well, no. For some people it's strictly morning and night.