So angry with partner

[jorainbow45]

My partner of 18mths had a fling before Christmas which I found out about. The first bit was a kiss at work I saw a message on his Facebook confronted him and he said it was a mistake. He text her told her about me and said it couldn't happen again he loved me. She replied ok. From there according to him she approached him and said you aren't happy we could have something nice and it continued for a week
I found out so got all the detail from him. He didn't fancy her was just playing and enjoyed the attention. He did however end up in her home where he got on got in and then had a massive pang of guilt and went soft. I'm so angry I can barely type. Says he thought she was ugly and doesnt know why it happened. How can he not know???? I asked if he loved me - yes. We had been arguing the month before as I suffer from anxiety and was struggling but after the kiss we talked and he agreed to communicate more as I felt he wasn't. Niw if I bring it up he says how many times will I? Do you think me talking to someone professional would benefit me?

The sad truth is that if you do choose to stay with him, he will continue to cheat on you and the excuses will always be as lame as the ones he's given you this time. Think, he did all of that with a woman who he (apparently) didn't even fancy. Imagine what he would do if he really liked someone?!

Walk away OP.

In the manner of Chandler Bing - could you BE more gullible?!

She's ugly...he went soft... oh come ON 🙄

I didn't think these responses would make me laugh but they have. Possibly at myself for being so stupid but they have been a welcome wake up. Don't think I've just accepted this and rolled over without getting angry However I have not listened to my gut and told him to f off and should have. Time to get strong and sort my shit out without him.

I've been with my partner for around 18m.

If he did this, I'd obviously be very upset. But I would consider it the end of the relationship. No conversation necessary.

Cheating this early on = he's just not that into you. Despite what he's trying to say now.

His loss. Next!

Ok I get it thatsnotmyrabbit. We all are capable of telling it how it is when we're not in the middle of a whole lot of hurt and upset or not the one who's life has been turned upside down.

Well, at least it is Sunday. You can clean him right out of your life, home etc and then get up tomorrow, new week, new life.

Say bye bye, lover boy

Penises do not have eyes and make judgement. If they do, its only in cartoons. A Toon can do anything.

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OP, life gets better now and you have years and years ahead of you.

Jorainbow

rainbow I agree how much easier it is to see things for what they are when its not you whose world is being turned upside down.

You cannot believe it and so tend to trust what they are saying, even when you find out they have been lying about something massive. I've been there too. It's only later that you realise about pretty much everything: 'hang on, this other stuff was probably a lie too.'

An unfaithful man who has been lying about it tends to say exactly what he thinks is the right thing to say to the person he's talking to at the time (be it you, the OW, his mates, his mum), in order to get the desired outcome at that time. Regardless of what's true.