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Need advice

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Rachela88 · 20/02/2016 19:37

Hello I'm just looking for some advice.
Basically I got engagded in July,I asked my partner.i thought I was ok with being the one proposing,but I'm not sure I am.i keep seeing people getting engaged and wish I had waited for him to ask,now I will never know how he would have done it .i have booked our wedding for 2 years away,but I'm now doubting everything,the wedding itself,our relationship,I think I expect to much.i have told my partner I wish he would propose to me still,but he said no.i don't know what to do,it shouldn't matter who asked who but I can't stop thinking about it.

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RiceCrispieTreats · 20/02/2016 21:02

Good plan. What do you need to do to get a home help visit?

Marchate · 20/02/2016 21:03

There are lots of excellent mental health websites. That's a good start

You really must try to look after your own health. If you can feel more confident, and like yourself more, you will find other things don't seem so bad

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Rachela88 · 20/02/2016 21:06

I'm not sure,I might ring the gp.i really need to stop letting myself get so low,I think this is affecting my relationship (from my side) I feel like my heart is breaking

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Cabrinha · 20/02/2016 21:20

I'm sorry you're feeling low.
Honestly, if my fiancé asked me to propose when he'd already done it, I'd find it a bit odd and pointless. But I love him so I'd find a way to do it to make him smile.

I'd your MH is stopping you from even getting to the GP (please do ring!) then I would suggest that you drop the whole proposal and wedding topic for now and concentrate on you.

The wedding is 2 years away. You've got it booked, there is nothing that has to be done this year. So just leave it. Put your time and energy into you.

I'm also getting married in 2018 and I really can't raise much interest in the details of it! So I don't blame your fiancé for that. It's just too far away. There is plenty of time in which he can propose, so take your focus off that and concentrate on you. Him proposing will make sod all difference to your depression. Get proper help from your GP

RiceCrispieTreats · 20/02/2016 21:22

I think you're right about that, Rachel.

Do ring the GP and let us know how you get on.

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Rachela88 · 20/02/2016 21:28

Thank you all for the advice

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RiceCrispieTreats · 22/02/2016 09:45

How are you feeling today, Rachela?

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