Feeling really sad tonight....

[misty]

Really stupid reason, nothing compared to some other peoples problems on here, but I live a long way from my parents/sister/brothers and have done for a long time, but tonight I feel really sad, crying as I write this actually
It's all been brought on by the fact that they are all having a family get-together tonight, just a bbq so no big deal, but I was just sat here reading emails etc and I kept thinking of them all together, and me, miles away, wishing I was there with them.
I'd move tomorrow if I could, but with DP and 2 DS's to think of, its not just down to me.
To top it all, my younger brother has just come back from a trip to OZ, where we used to live, and is showing them all his photos of the house we used to live in etc so I think this has just opened up a floodgate of happy memories, and I miss my Mum and Dad.....
Sorry, I know this is pathetic (I'm 35 for goodness sake), but do we ever really stop wanting to be near our mums & dads?

Oh Misty, sorry you feel so sad. My parents are dead so I miss them obviously... how far are your family?

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It's not pathetic at all. I'd be hopeless without my parents to hand.

Hi

Thanks for your replies, my substitute family
Jampot, so sorry to hear about your parents, I know my situation is totally different
My family live in Shropshire, which is a 2 hour drive, not a million miles I know but just the practicalities of 2 young children, work, school etc mean we don't get to visit that often (once every 2/3 months really). I used to go up on the spur of the moment before DS1 was at school, but can't do that now.
Essbee, DP won't move to Shropshire as all his family live near us here. I can't tell you the number of times I've just wanted to up sticks and move regardless, but I just don't want to move without him. I keep telling myself 'maybe in a few years time' but then the time passes, and 'a few years time' seems to be becoming 'ten years time' etc.
There's no answer really, but as my parents get older, and my siblings children grow bigger, I feel it even more....
Thanks for listening!

I know exactly how you feel, I spent last Sunday crying coz I wasn't with half my friends and family in SA.

Take comfort in the fact that they miss you too!

And try to remember that there are good reasons that you live where you are - that make you hapy too I hope!

BIG HUGS ((()))

Whereabouts are you Misty? Can you get to Shropshire at weekends?

kalex, thanks for putting things in perspective.... there are good things about living where I do - good friends, nice house (which we wouldn't be able to afford if we moved to Shropshire!)nice job etc. I know I probably look at things thru rose tinted glasses, and if we did move there would be things I'd miss about here, it's just that life is just so hard without that family support - I'm trying to organise a night out for my birthday in a month's time and it's proving pretty nigh impossible due to lack of babysitters!

jampot, we live nr St Neots in cambridgeshire. Yes we do usually visit at weekends, when DP isn't working (or when he is ) but you know what it's like, the weekends are normally taken up with swimming lessons, and I work from home so tend to catch up with things then, and there's the cost of getting up there (£40 round trip) - all excuses I know, but valid ones.

IKWYM Misty - weekends are busier than the week sometimes! St Neots is lovely though isn't it. Do you get much time out with dh on your own? Maybe you need a little spoiling

Jampot you must be telepathic! yes, I certainly do need some spoiling! We hardly EVER go out on our own, in fact sat here alone tonight whilst DP is off planning his weekend away camping with the lads.....oh gosh, don't get me started on that one!

Why don't the lads go camping in say, Shropshire, and they could drop you with your family. Lovely weather, BBQ, themed party????

Misdee,

Do the wee ones go to nursery, coz I have found that lots of them want to babysit for extra cash, and the benefir is that they know your wee ones!

jampot - great idea! Lads going in totally opposite direction unfortunately, but I have decided to take DS's and whizz up to shropshire and sod the expense
kalex - good idea also - it's just a money thing (i.e we don't have very much!) so getting 'proper' babysitters in is really expensive. I find we tend to rely and a couple of really good friends, do swapsies in fact, but at the moment we are seriously 'in debt' as have had a load of really boring things to go to recently, nothing exciting or spoily though.

sorry, meant seriously 'in debt' in terms of owing our friends loads of babysitting....

I'm sure your friends don't give to receive and no-one would begrudge you a night out.

IKWYM though - with no parents alive and the IL's in Spain (best place for them) we struggle in fact I can't remember the last time dh and I went out on our own, maybe 2 years ago! seriously

jampot - where do you live? lol at comment re in-laws! I feel like that about mine, but they live round the corner

I'm in Solihull Misty. I do have a sis in Sutton (not far from Nutty) and one in Warwick but neither have kids and both let me down.

ahhh I know solihull jampot - my dad's family from dudley and around so been there a good few times. families eh? can't live with 'em, can't live without 'em