Help me help my parents please!

[yorkshirelass79]

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Relate are pretty much the only group doing marital counselling.

But the thing is, if they don't want to go to counselling, if they don't want to change things, there's nothing you can do, really.

Ok, that's not quite true, I got fed up with my parents rowing all the bloody time and whinging about each other, and confronted them about it, and offered to pay for counselling, and explained how miserable it was making everyone else.

It was fun.

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I wouldn't listen to the whinging, tbh. It's really not on for them to expect their children to listen to them bitch about each other.

Confronting my parents did work, in a way. They didn't get counselling, but they did realise that treating each other badly affected other people, too.

I went to Relate with my partner and the counsellor was rubbish - didn't pick up that he had a serious mental illness amongst other things and I felt like we were just paying £30 an hour to have the same arguments we could have for free at home - and they wouldn't let us change counsellors. Still, I guess it's luck of the draw and your parents might get someone good there. We went to see someone we found from the Brit Assoc of Counselling and Psychotherapy in the end, who was fantastic. Click on find a therapist and the info about each counsellor will say whether or not they do couples counselling.

we went to relate and it was great but it does depend on your counsellor.

As NQC said you need to want to go. There are some good books by relate you could buy for them as a big hint!

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