Short backstory: recently separated, with sxtbh for 28 years and married for 20 so met when I was very young. Never had any partners prior to him.
So my radar is a bit off these days, I am most definitely not ready to be meeting anyone else, just needing some time for me now, to find myself (which is silly coz I don't even know what I like and don't like, it was always want dh did or didn't)...
So I got chatting on messaging with a dad from my sons class. It started over a homework issue, and over a few weeks we message every now and then, just to say hi etc. He is divorced too, quite a messy one at that. So he chatted to me about that and I chatted about my separation.
He asked me if he could ask me something quite personal, I said ok but that if I didn't want to answer then I wouldn't. So he asked me if I think that my during my marriage, I feel that I was treated well as a wife. I asked him in what context he meant (as my stbxh had affairs so I wouldn't say I was treated well or respected but I didn't tell him that). So he asked me if my stbxh ever did little things like willingly ran me a bath, lit a candle in there and gave me massages etc. I said no, as its the truth. His reply was shocked emoticon and reply was along the lines of "that just isn't right, not right at all, cant believe that, its not right". etc etc.
So, as I don't know any different..... is that normal? Did/does dh do that for you, without you asking..... Because he seemed to think that was a normal thing for a husband to do....
Was it flirting, he didn't offer to come over and give a massage 
he just seemed upset about my reply to his question.
Maybe I'm thinking too much into it, but now I am thinking about what else I have missed out on all these years, that is supposed to be "normal".