Love token?

[floatinby6]

My bf wears a ring he refuses to talk about. It looks like a thick gold wedding band with two diamonds in it. It means an awful lot to him. Because it means a lot to him, it's important to me too. He never ever removes it. He's never been married & I don't think it is an old hand-me-down from a dear old grandad or whatever. All he will tell me is that he promised to never ever speak about it and that a promise is a promise. I think I know where the ring has come from, well I'm guessing. For the time being I don't mind, it's his perogative obviously but I feel a bit cut out. I really really like him & I'm just playing this forward in my head. Say we end up going the distance & are together for years on end, it feels a bit like there's a little 'ghost' hanging around that I'm not privvy to and I feel shut out. What do you think?

I reckon munkynutts is probably right.

I think it's the product of an affair, hence the secret.

Well there will be reasons other than the ring that make you think it was the product of a forbidden relationship & sadly those kinds of relationships never reach the stage where you see him scratching his balls on the sofa as they are exciting & different and immoral so its probably still got a whiff of the exotic to him.

If you think this was the case, then if the woman was suddenly free & called him do you think he'd go running to her? Because that would make a difference for me. Which finger does he wear the ring on?

(If I had to make up a story to explain it then I'd say that they were both 17 & she had waist length black hair, it was a dark & stormy night & they were both standing on the bridge over the raging torrent of the river. Outlined by a bright moon they made their promises to each other & gave each other a ring. Suddenly there was a loud cracking sound & the bridge gave way, he was flung onto the far bank but she was swept away and he never saw her again.)

Loving the Tolkein references btw :) if he has a fondness for black robes & is a bit on the thin side then you could always shout 'Oi Witch King of Angmar' & see if he turns his head?

I would never mention it again just to be contrary.
I think he loves the attention .

I wouldn't think any more about it. Everyone has a right to their privacy. On the other hand, it seems unlikely to me it is from someone he has had an affair with.

Urgh, get rid. Surely you'll always feel second best? He clearly still has feelings for the giver.

Sorry but it sounds like attention seeking behaviour and a desperate need to be seen as a man of mystery.

Yep, attention seeking crap.
Did he cross his heart and hope to die, or do pinkie fingers? If not, doesn't count.
Sounds like a total cock.
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