Basically I was seeing a man for around a year and a half, I was getting increasingly sick of him for various reasons (terrible money habits, debt, childish and wreckless driving, obsession with playstation, trying to take over with the kids and constantly relying on his mum for everything) so I eventually called it a day with him. This was a long, drawn out process as he just wouldn't leave it, he would phone at stupid times (like 3am), come round unnannounced, sent long, soppy emails about "the first time we met" etc etc but in the end after a few months it did calm down and he spoke to each other less. We slowly started talking again, mostly over msn as friends, chatted about general day to day stuff, the news etc and then he said he'd got tickets to see a band that was near where I lived and he wondered if I fancied it...just as friends. I hadn't been out in ages and really needed the break so I agreed, this was a week before christmas. He came down and bought me a £70 bottle of perfume, I told him not to etc and even got on at him to try and get his money back and he said it didnt matter, it was just an early christmas present.
I know what he's like for trying to buy affection however so this was a worry to me, we went to see the band on the night and had a good time, he dropped me off at home and got out christmas presents that he'd bought for my kids...he then put his arm around me and tried to kiss me, I gave him a little kid (spare of the moment/confusion etc) and he went home.
However now he seems to think that everything is back on, we're supposed to be going out "just as friends" on new year but now I know his intentions I dont know what to do, I know this is my fault but I don't know how to handle it now, he's already paid for new year so I cant really tell him Im not going...he's due to come down tomorow.
What do I do? is it unreasonable of me now to tell him that I'm still up for new year (im paying my own way btw) but nothing else will happen? or is that mean/arrogent etc?