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People's opinions please

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baby0684 · 14/02/2016 18:10

I had been single for over 5 years. And last year I started dating again. Quite a few duff ones.
At the end of last year, thought was a decent guy, we had a little accident, and now I'm pregnant. We not together.

Now, my question is it strange to go back on the dating sites while I'm pregnant.

I would like to find someone decent, long term!

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NewNameNotTheSame · 14/02/2016 19:15

Not strange, as long as you're completely up front about your situation. Not fair IMO to suck people in, and then tell them a few dates in that you're pregnant.

thebiscuitindustry · 14/02/2016 19:18

I agree with NewName.

Doingmyheadin2016 · 14/02/2016 19:22

I wouldn't bother myself. If you have been single for five years, you are perfectly capable of being on your own for now, concentrating on your pregnancy and baby.

Online dating is stressful enough at the best of times. There is so much potential for getting messed around or hurt. Have you seen all the threads on here from women in turmoil after their internet date has vanished after five dates or dumped them after three months or was married all along?

Doingmyheadin2016 · 14/02/2016 19:23

I think you need to protect yourself and concentrate on your health and well-being.

AnyFucker · 14/02/2016 19:23

Why do you need to deliberately look for men ?

Meeting someone "accidentally" whilst pregnant is one thing. But to actively pursue a relationship ? Why ?

Particularly if you have had some bad experiences with men, I would consider this to be a perfect time to concentrate on just you and your baby.

A man just complicates things right now. Do you feel less of a person without one ?

TokenGinger · 14/02/2016 19:39

You'd have to be honest. And I doubt that'll get you far. Very few men will actively want to date somebody already pregnant with another man's child. You're probably opening yourself up to further heartache.

goddessofsmallthings · 14/02/2016 19:42

I'd be concerned about men on OLD sites who'd be attracted to a woman who was pg with another man's child and I suspect that some would see it as an opportunity to have unprotected sex with no fear of the consequences.

Describing an unplanned pregnancy which, if continued, will hugely impact on your life as a 'little accident' also gves me cause to have concern about you, OP.

Although you may not be 'together', does the 'decent guy' responsible for your condition intend to step up to the plate in terms of support throughout your pregnancy and child maintenance after the birth?

AnyFucker · 14/02/2016 19:44

Yes, I would view men who went out of their way to hook up with pregnant women with a massive amount of suspicion too.

silverfoxofwarwick1952 · 14/02/2016 19:48

Concentrate on baby for a year or two.

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