What would you do? younger man dilemma

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I'm so torn, please advise me.

I met a younger man, intended as a fling and we started seeing each other and some feelings have developed.

I know that he has a life plan, which involves settling down in a few years an then he wants a big family with a lot of children, which is something I can't giv him.

I have no idea what to do,

On the one hand there is the obvious thing that is likely to happen which is that the relationship will end and he will want to be with someone younger which will of course be a broken heart for me.

On the other hand if the relationship doesn't end and he fell in love with me too I would be asking him to sacrifice a lot surely to make a life with me?

I already have a child so it doesnt matter to me.

What would you do in my situation? Is it best to walk away as soon as possible to avoid any further feelings developing?

Or is life too sort and should you just enjoy today?

And if I choose the latter, how do I protect myself the best way from the pain of the inevitable?

See, this is why I don't even embark on any relationship that has no future. My heart just can't take it, it's not worth even a bit of fun.

My dh is 12 years younger and we have been together 10 years have one child and are still amazing together.
I agree that the issue isnt age but the fact that he has a different expectation from the relationship.
For that reason I think you should walk away so as to not get hurt, but I doubt that you will be able to as feelings make us do stuff we shouldn't.

The trouble is that worry about this is already reducing the happiness of the relationship - you aren't living in the now - and where's the resolution? I'd have a big talk with him to see if you can find one, then if you can't, walk away.

I'm 11 years younger than my long term girlfriend & it works really well. We have the usual Ups & downs but, I couldn't be happier. Just go with the flow & see what happens. Don't look any further ahead than the next date & enjoy yourself

Except he wants kids and it is unlikely op can have them. There no going with the flow with a huge subject like that.

I'm 12 years older than my partner. I'm 40 he's 28. It started off taking each day as it came and then 6 months down the road we now talk about the future. I have 3 kids and have no intention of having anymore and have said this from the start. He is adamant that he wants no kids but there is always that niggle in the back of my mind. I will continue to enjoy this relationship for what it is. If he had told me he wanted kids tbh I would have definitely walked away. It's a deal breaker.

Dh had no kids and had probably always wanted them but he stil married me knowing that but I iften had a niggle too or felt guilty.
As it happens I did have dd but I often wonder how we'd have panned out if not.
Id ask him op and see what he thinks?