Me and DH have always had a pretty turbulant relationship and a few months ago we hit a particular rocky patch. One night we got a few drinks in, hoping to relax and talk and he started acting odd, saying strange things about what it would like for each of us to go our seperate ways and to have new relationships etc...we joked about it and I jokingly asked him if he had anyone in mind, I told him I was no longer bothered if he had (which was a lie) and he started acting sheepish and said "well...sort of.." I dug a bit futher and eventually get told me that he'd been seeing a girl from work, a 17 year old student.
Anyway it all blew up, I hated him, called him every name under the sun (especially as I was 7 months pregnant at the time), he saw how devesated I was, he saw me trying to kill myself (already suffering with depression so didnt need this on top, feel awful now because of the baby but wasnt thinking straight at the time)...we actually split up over it, I moved out etc.
Anyway, now he decides nothing happened really, it was all just a lie to get something happening in our relationship??? he's very convincing when he says this...why would anyone lie though? especially when they see the devestation caused why would they then not own up?? why only own up after the other person no longer cares what happened? We're back together and I said I beleieve him but I don't, I don't understand it and I can't just let it go, why would you lie about being unfaithful like that??