Anyone tried informal 'mediation' with a family member

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Several years ago DSis misinterpreted something I had done and demanded an apology. As I hadn't done what she thought I'd done I refused but suggested we talk about it. She didn't want to. We've never been close but nothing like this has ever happened before.

3 years have gone by and there has been NC but she's told her story to other relatives, no doubt embellished, and 2 family members no longer speak to me.

I want to end this nonsense - we're all in our 50s and its simply ridiculous. Was thinking of asking a cousin - she's a nurse so has good people skills - to mediate. Dsis has tried to get her to take sides but she maintains fairly minimal with me.

Anyone been through anything like this? Any tips would be appreciated.

Why did not apologise ?
Why don't you apologise now in letter .
Just apologise for everything thinks you have done wrong .

I cannot apologise for something I have not done - it is something really horrible she thinks I've done.

I've already sent her a letter explaining that she has misunderstood and suggesting we put an end to this.

Pop, did she not respond to your letter?

If this person can be neutral then you have nothing to lose by trying. Imo

You apologise for her thinking that you did the thing she thought you did .
Have you found who did the thing she thought you did ?

She didn't respond to my letter Iam

summer it was someone treating her a certain way which she thought I'd provoked. That person has MH issues and is in no fit state to contribute to the discussion.

you apologise for saying xxx (write exactly what you said) to y .
you then apologise for y doing what she did . you have be prepared to apologise if you going do mediation .