Would You get involved with a man who just split from his ex wife in March?

[incognitomum]

I'm going through a split myself and have met someone who I think is great. We have lots in common etc...
I'm just worried as he got divorced a few years ago, got back with her a year after that and split apparently for good in March?

Mumsnet opinions much appreciated

I can be quite tough so say it as it is

Thats nearly a year - I would. DH was with his ex 6 years and we got together after amonth or two of that split. They weren't married though.

Eh YES, if you like him definitely. He is single, so are you, go for it

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Yes I'm sure you're all right it's just I worry about the fact they split then got back. I can feel myself falling for him and am scared to be hurt. I know we all need to take risks but I've been through so much. I suppose at the end of the day it's down to me but thanks for the advice.

Incognitomum - Nothing ventured nothing gained, trusting again is difficult but important. You must love like you have never been hurt as the saying goes.

I probably wouldn't. I don't know if I'd want to date someone with an ex-wife. Plus she'd probably only end up blaming you for the split even if you turned up later.

I would if I were single and the man was lovely, absolutely.

Yep

no she won't blame me as she was unfaithful according to him. Can't you sense that I'm a cynic? One good sign is he doesn't slag her off and seems mature. I suppose I'm just worried he's still in love with her but he's not exactly going to admit to that.

I would if you really have clicked !

Wouldn't be so certain that the ex wife won't blame you though ! My best friend split with her husband in Feb this year - her choice completely and she took up with a new chap within about a fortnight. She won't admit it but I think he wss waiting in the wings iykwim - anyway - she made a big point of telling her h that she was dating him. Her h was gutted as up till then he had hoped for a reconciliation - well that night he went online dating for the first time and struck very lucky as he met a lady in the same boat who he instantly clicked with and they are still together 9 mths later. My bf split with her partner after about 5 mths - and now she seriosly talks about her h being unfaithful and has been telling all their friends about his "new partner" as if he left her ! It drives me mad - sorry to rant !

Jusr really to say that she has twisted the truth to suit her own ends ! She also has major probs now as her ex-bf is stalking her and being a right pain.

Be careful I'd say - don't jump in with both feet until you're sure he is mentally free of her !

how long did they split for in total before getting back together ?

were either of them with anyone else during the time apart?

and how long did they stay together after they got back together?