am I being unreasonable

[FedUpWithJudgementalPeople]

Had a bit of a stern talk with my bf last night about him repeatedly saying he is going to learn to drive but not actually doing it. Told him to just do it basically.

I realise he is nervous etcetc and on a certain level it doesnt affect me whether he can drive or not. I can drive but it's not like he's expecting me to drive him about and we live in a city so it's easy to get around anyway.

However it worries me that he could be the sort of person who says they will do things but doesn't. We are talking about marriage and possibly trying for a child and it worries me that actually when it comes to it this is all talk.

I might be being completely unreasonable and linking in my head things that are not linked!

It's not fair but it's natural. I can't tell you the amount of crap I projected on to my DH thanks to a previous horrendous relationship.

I took me years even after being married to learn the lesson I've shared about communicating. I'm just glad you have a little of insight of that this early in your relationship. Puts you way ahead of where I was. Things have turned out great though as DH learnt to do the same thing.

All the best for your future, and putting your past behind you too

Why exactly is it ok for you to bitch about losing weight and not do anything about it but not ok, for him to talk of taking driving lessons and not doing so? I don't quite understand your hypocrisy.

Thanks for your constructive response