I'm so confused. I thought my relationship with my partner of 22 years was good. A few months ago he told me he was unhappy. Various things like, lack of sex life, not putting an effort in looks wise (as in that I've put weight on) and that he hates that I'm bothered about having a nice home (tidy, decorated etc, he thinks it's a waste of time off) the list goes on. First we talked and things got much better. Now its all kicked off again and he seems to contradict half the stuff he complained about before! (I'm too needy, want to spend too much time with him. He's not in the mood for sex etc) I had a pregnancy scare recently and tonight he said (in not so many words) that if I'd been pregnant and gone through with it he'd have left me...to say I was shocked by this would be an understatement. Basically he seems to be feeling like he's missed out on life after we had a child so young (we were was 17) he wants to travel and is blaming me for stopping him (I'm terrified of flying and suffer from anxiety). He's now telling me he wants to go China this summer...even though he knows I can't get enough time off work to go this late on (my work holls get booked way in advance) it's like he's just saying something he knows I can't sort out. I suggested a week somewhere closer to give me a chance to get my head round the flight, but he just says I'm stopping him doing what he needs to do. If I'm being honest I think he wants to leave me...I'm terrified by this, I have some good friends but lost both my parents young (this caused some of my anxiety problems) so don't have much of a support network. It sounds pathetic but I really do love him and thought we'd get though anything together, I'm feeling heartbroken.