I've posted before about my uncle with cancer. well he had a relapse and spent 5 weeks in hospital, he had a suspected stroke there and lost the use of his right arm, leg and most of his speech and some of his memory etc leaving him totally reliant on others.
Anyway whilst he was in hospital my mum kept going on saying nobody was telling her what was happening, nobody would go to the hospital with her and they were making her go on her own as they "didnt want to be seen with her" etc etc...she then said it was easier for her to go on an afternoon so when the family asked her to go in the afternoons she said it was better for her to go on a night...then when she started doing the nights she was saying it was too inconvienient etc etc...
Anyway he came home for christmas but cannot be left by himself so is living with my grandma with all the family (he has 4 sisters and a brother plus all the nieces and nephews pitching in to help.
So yesterday my grandma phoned my mum and asked if she would go down today to help out, my mum agreed but complained that she didnt want to go whilst my other aunt was there as they didnt get on and my aunt would be bossy and "on her high horse" etc etc...this is all before she'd even seen my other aunt! but she went anyway...so I phoned tonight to ask how it went...
She was fuming basically as aunt and her partner were there and my mum said they were both "taking over" and "being bossy" and "cocky", she was infuriated that my grandma asked her to do some of her ironing for her and said to me "I'm not a fucking maid" and apparantly they used her as a tea maid which irritated her even further...she then started crying on the phone saying everyone treats her like shit and if it continues she's going to say something to them all (bear in mind the situation is VERY tense and the wrong word to the wrong person at the wrong time is likely to set off world was 3, 4 and 5)...she said they've asked her to go tomorow but she's going to put her foot down and tell them she isnt a home help and she's going to look after my uncle not to do housework....
I'm getting to the point where I don't want to speak to any of them because I can see all this blowing up like an atom bomb and I'm scared of what will happen when it does. Is my mum being unreasonable? I hate slagging her off but its getting too much now. surely at a time like this we could leave the bickering out? my uncle only has months to live.