My friend once told me that if she were me she would send the kids to their dad's house looking really scruffy and unkept in their oldest, holiest clothes and everytime she was seeing him she would dress the same...???? I was totally confused by this and just assumed she was having me on.
Anyway I've just been talking to her and she was telling me about her sister in law, slagging her off because she'd sent her kids to their dad's house in brand new clothes and she'd got a bit dressed up too (this woman usually gets dressed up just for the school run so its not totally out of character!). Anyway I didn't see anything wrong in the kids going to their dads in new clothes, my boys often do, I like them to look smart but then she started on again about if it was her she would send them in their oldest, scruffiest clothes and she would've turned up the same....why would anyone do that??? is it just me or is this an odd attitude to have?
Why would you want to make your ex think that you can't function without him? It's not as if she means she would do it to try and win him back either...just to be "spitefull" but how is that hurting him? surely it would just look bad on you?
Would love other's opinions on this, I don't know if I'm missing the point!