Do I get valentines gift for new boyfriend?

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I am in a newish relationship and was wondering what the done thing is now with buying valentines gifts for boyfriends ?

Cabrinha I wouldn't normally ask, but what happened?!!

I don't mind you asking!

Most revenge boyfriend before current lovely one...
Last year, late Jan, we'd been together over a year, we went out for dinner with his family, came home, had sex, and for the first time he told me he loved me. A week later (week before Valentine's) we'd been swapping photos of bad Valentine taxidermy, laughing at rats holding hearts. Check out eBay - there are some awful ones!
Neither of us "do" Valentine's and had been through one before - so no big deal. But (I think?) it just focused him that I wasn't the one... and a week before The Day he texted (yep, a text!) "I'm not feeling it for Valentine's - could you handle being friends?"
I actually called him and said "I'm actually only 95% sure I've been dumped?"
We're still friends!
In fact yesterday I texted him "happy dumpiversary"

But the other one broke my heart! Years ago. Love of my life - well, I thought 😉
We'd had this on/off thing. Basically - me hanging in for crumbs. He wasn't seeing anyone else, just wasn't into me enough and wouldn't make time, and we both said we were too busy for a relationship (me to play cool girl live and learn!)
So Valentine's was coming up and I didn't want to get caught out, but didn't want to scare him off either. Decided to get a card and if I got one from him was planning to text "got yours to hand deliver... 😉"
No card in post from him. Phew. Didn't embarrass myself.
Get a call next day, he'd called an ex on the 14th, met up, got back together, we were over. I was 😳

Three days later... His card arrived at mine. Totally wrong post code, post office note written over it.

We're friends now, 15 years on. He told me he was gutted I didn't respond/wasn't interested and went running into ex's arms for consolation! In retrospect he was a total headfuck and I'm so glad I finally saw that But at the time I was all "thwarted love for sake of a postcode"

So - sorry for hijack, but yeah - I don't have a good history with Valentine's!

So turns out he doesn't do valentines.

Quite disappointed really. Not that I was expecting flowers, but it would have been nice for him to pick a card and make some plans rather than waiting until he realises i am disappointed and trying to sort something last minute on the day and still end up with no plans.

Maybe I'm just a bit high maintenance, but when you don't live together and its your first valentines I would have hoped he at least acknowledged it.

Feeling a bit fed up and deflated today and hoping that this weekend doesn't end up being something I remember for long.

So you're only 3 months in, you didn't do anything for him (I think?) he's very romantic when some stupid commercial non event isn't 'forcing it' and you're disappointed??

And worried you'll remember we this for a long time?

Yes, you are high maintenance.
There is NO future to this relationship if you can't just say "hey, it's not for everyone but I kind of like Valentine's - I'd like to swap cards in future, what do you think?" (although 3 months in I'd save that chat for next Jan)

Communication is more important than over worked cliché red flowers.
Stop being a princess and tell him what you like, but be prepared that he has the right to say it's rubbish.

Would you prefer someone who is forcibly Romantic once a year or romantic every day?