Would you be upset?

[JodieG1]

Dh "forgot" to get me a christmas card, and also forgot to get one for me from our children This has really upset me because the cards are really important to me (which he knows) and I save them each year. I've said he could have made one for me from the kids or even print one off online for him so I have something to keep but still nothing It's really irritating especially when I see him on the pc reading bloody forums so it's not like he has
had anything to do. I think it's also other things getting to me about him like the way he's been speaking to me lately always swearing and speaking to me like crap. I've been fed up quite a lot lately as it always seems to be me
making all the effort and I feel so unappreciated. I have talked to him about it and he is better than he used to be but most of the time he doesn't even really listen just nods and then has no idea what I've been talking about.

Blimey, it wouldn't occur to me or dh to get each other cards. I think the behaviour is something you need to talk to him about but the Christmas card, well, you need to let that go imo.

I wouldn't be upset about the Christmas card; that's unimportant in the scheme of things.

I would be very upset though about being sworn at and spoken to as if I were crap, and I think that's the issue you need to be bringing up with him, not the lack of Christmas cards.

Thanks. The thing is we usually do get each other cards and he knows they mean a lot to me, the words inside. Might not seem like much but I'm quite sentimental and hoard stuff like that.

Think I'm at the point where I'm fed up of trying with the way he speaks, had the conversation a few times and it always seems to slip back. I think my being 37 weeks pregnant isn't helping as I'm so hormonal, I think that's what made the lack of cards worse too.

i wouldnt be upset over not getting cards, however you need to take issue with the way hes been speaking to you.

I wouldn't be at all upset about the lack of cards tbh. Men often just don't do cards!
The way he talks to you does need addressing though, definitely.

Although Christmas xards are not that important to me, they clearly are to JodieG1 and she has tried to make that clear to her dh. The fact that he hasn't either taken on board the importance of Christmas cards from her family to her, or has elected not to act on the matter seems to me like it is an issue that Jodie and her dh need to discuss - there is a communication problem here.

out of interest,do you try and talk to him while hes on the computer?ive learnt over the past few months that if i need to have an important conversation with dp i have to tell him that i need to talk to him 'when hes finished on the computer'.otherwise whatever i say just doesnt register.

have you asked him if theres any reason for his change in attitude toward you?maybe hes feeling insecure or left out because of the new baby on the way.