Being sworn at for nagging

[Chirstmascake1]

Few days ago was having reasonably good evening with DP.

We came home and I reminded him to do washing up (from day before) especially as week before he'd left it 3 days and I ended up doing it.

Watched tv and at the end I reminded him again. I suppose probably in a bit of nagging way.

He then does it; storms in bedroom and demands an apology for "making demands" and speaking to him in a disrespectful way. I say I don't see why I should apologise for reminding him to do his washing up when his turn.

Realising he's not going to get sex or an apologise he then calls me a f*ing fat bitch and storms off in a sulk.

We've been together 2.5 years and have DD. Tried to leave at Christmas but he said would stop swearing etc.

I think you know the answer

If he just did what needed to be done you wouldn't have to 'nag'. He's a twat for speaking to you like that.

Yep, you do know the answer. Sounds like a pig.

You were nagging and it sounds annoying. And he was bang out of order for what he said.

Love the way he expected sex then. Is he a complete idiot?

Makes me feel guilty and does pressurise me.

You were ready to leave at Christmas, he made a promise, he now broke that promise.

It sounds like your plan to leave is back on, then. If you stay, you're as goodgood as telling him that he can keep swearing at you as muchmuch as he wants.

A man who makes you feel guilty about not providing sex precisely when he wants it is an arsehole. And one who pressurises you for it is a cunt.

Get shot of him

Please read these signs of emotional abuse in a relationship - I wouldn't be surprised if a few more rang true.

If so, please get some real life support, maybe call Women's Aid, read Lundy Bancroft, get counselling... Do whatever you have to do to prepare emotionally and practically to LTB.

I used to be confident and now I feel paralysed by indecision

He wont change. He's a lazy git who gets angry when reminded of responsibility. He also thinks verbal abuse is an acceptable response when being reminded.
It's not "nagging". If his boss reminds him to do his job does he spew foul obscenities? No? Thought not.

Re indecision - maybe this book would help?
Should I stay or should I go? by Lundy Bancroft

I hate the word nagging. Its totally sexist. Like pp says, when your boss requests something it's not nagging - it's a request. If he's verbally abusive in this way then he obviously feels that he's above such things as washing up and superior to you. He's not. See if you can have a proper talk about this problem and if he won't, then there is no hope of improvement. If his position is fixed on this, leaving is the best chance of a happy life for you and your DC.