The last 2 times we have seen DH's mum she has been 'off' with us. She is renowned for not speaking to people if they are late to a function or if they do soemthing she does not agree with etc, very petty reasons imo.
They are supposed to come to ours every monday night to see the kids as they are moving to spain come march-ish. this arrangement has been in place for 5 weeks and we have seen them 3 times. mil usually gets fil to call 10 mins before they are due to arrive to cancel saying mil isnt feeling well or some such bollocks.
she never wants to hold our 3 month old anyway and can only manage to get to ours well after ds1 has gone to bed- neither of them work on a monday btw.
so, i have a nasty flu-ey bug as does ds1. we were all invited to bil this evening for tea and we were running late as ds1 woke from his nap and was very upset so we spent time consoling him rather than chucking him in the car in a state. i too was just coming round from a nap as i felt like death warmed up. anyway, we get to bils and sure enough, i get the daggers.i knew it was going to happen and i told dh so in the car on the way. she would not look at us throughout the whole evening and was even off with ds1 (17months) ffs!! why punish the kid?! the thing is, we dont even know what we are supposed to have done wrong and she doesnt have the bottle to let us know. i told dh she was not speaking to me and dh told me she was the same with him. later in the evening, bil was in the kitchen getting a drink and i told him. he said that the last time he saw her she was off with them aswell but tonight she was fine with them. he also said he had just stopped it kicking off between dh and mil as dh had told him he was going to march intot he lounge and ask her outright what the problem was! unfortunately bil had stopped him and asked him not to start a ruck for his sake as sil had gone to a lot of trouble laying the food on etc and they didnt want the evening ruined. dh told him it already had been.
anyway, bil and sil are on our side as they are sick of all the pathetic behaviour aswell. dh has now said he wants nothing to do with her as she is truly pathetic and he thinks she is mentally unstable! unless she is centre of attention she gets a bit put out. for example, when i gave birth to ds2 in sepember at 12.45am and was told i was haemorraging (sp?) and may need an emergency hysterectomy at 23 years old, she told dh the next day that they obviously have 'very different ideas'about what is more important- him being at my side when i thought i was going to die or phoning her to tell her i had had a boy- which we all already knew from the scan.
what is her problem and has anyone else experienced similar?
thanks!!
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