Old Boyfriend back in touch!!!!

[dontknowhatodo]

I really don't know what to do??

A while ago i sent a message to an old flame of mine, via Friends Reunited.

He just got in touch last week, and we've been emailing every day since.

He and i were young and in love for a while, but it didn't last! He was in the army and had to go away a lot.

This has sent me in a complete spin, and i've been all over the place thinkng about him.

We're both in relationships with kids, but neither of us are really happy!

Any advice please?

don't do it!

If you're not happy, try to fix the relationship you're in. Running off with someone else and making a mess of things isn't going to make you happy, imo.

make up your mind whether you want to continue your current relationship. and this decision should be made regardless of whether the old flame seems interested in you or not.

old flame will confuse everything and may mean you make a wrong turn.

drop it (for now) and go to relate with current dp - they will help you to determine if current relationship is worth working at.

good luck.

btw the internet is to blame for loads (can't remember statistic) of marriage barkdowns lately - tread so very carefully!

I really do not know how to deal with this!

Feel like i want them both for VERY different reasons.

He doesn't even live near me anymore, so realistically wouldn't get to see much of each other.

Unless he moved back this way, which at the moment he can't.

My partner actually thinks i'm happy.

I think he's been wearing blinkers!!!

"My partner actually thinks i'm happy."

Have you actually explained to him you are not,and why?

Or is that not your responsibility?

don't do it - can and worms comes to mind, look at your current relationship and work out what's happening there - I think something's probably lacking within that relationship to make you think the way you are doing about your ex.

It's that time of year as well for ex's to get in touch. They/we think back to other xmas's when our hopes and lives were different is my guess. It's the past, leave it be would be my take on it. Talk to current bloke about what you all want out of 2007 and onwards instead.

I would stay well clear, he's your ex for a reason. i went back to my ex a few years ago and it was a disaster.
I'd focus on what you've got now and try to sort out your problems

Please believe me when i say if you do this you will be making a huge mistake. In may of this year i ran into an ex from 12 yrs ago, I had been with my current partner for 2 years almost. I left my dp and started up a relationship with this person. We both had families and neither of us were happy (well at least i didnt think i was) and i were both happy enough to throw everything away that i had. Anyway to cut a long story short i very soon realised that we had nothing in common and that in short he was psychotic! And now i am paying the price luckily and i mean very luckily my dp (who is now my df) stayed with me and we worked through our problems, but that guy is curretly making my life hell He follows me to work, has tried to run my car off the road, has damaged both my cars. I have even moved but he found me. I have changed my numbers but he will get them. The police won't do anything because he knows too many people who will always act as an alibi and i am powerless to stop him So please think long and hard before you do anything. I thought i knew this guy and he would never be like this, but by all accounts i was so very wrong.

How could you ever trust him? He's deceiving his current partner, and down the line, he could do it to you too. Besides, you have too much to lose. My advice is to stop all contact immediately, and concentrate on improving your current relationship/family.

We've had some many threads like this before...yawn...it'll all end in tears.

They're an ex for a reason . . .