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What's wrong with me - "lusting" after our 28yo handyman "young man" !!!!!

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Steppy1 · 26/12/2006 20:28

Happily married 43 yr old with 2 beautiful children and great dh...but find myself having really naughty thoughts about the "young man" who's recently done lots of home improvement works at our new house...What's a girl to do...AAAARGH !!!!

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longwaytogotobethlehem · 26/12/2006 20:42

Find a new handyman unless you want to put your dh, children, friends, family, collegues through hell.

The ripple effect of affairs last for ages don't go there.

southeastastra · 26/12/2006 20:44

i am 37 and can empathise with you argh what's happening to us!! i blame the media

lou33 · 26/12/2006 20:46

i am 40 in a few days and have a 28 yr old bf, but then again i am separated

as long as its left to fantasising i dont see anything wrong in your case

longwaytogotobethlehem · 26/12/2006 20:51

hmmm but it doesn't take much for fantasy to become reality it only takes one moment alone together. Be careful is all I say.

lou33 · 26/12/2006 21:31

true but there is such a thing as self restraint, and there is no hint in the post that the handyman fancies her back

southeastastra · 26/12/2006 21:38

just go for it

DimpledThighs · 26/12/2006 22:18

do everything your heart desires - just keep it all in your head. I have regular fantasy affairs that DP knows nothing about - they keep me ticking over nicely.

Flirt and fantasize - but that's all steppy!

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Steppy1 · 27/12/2006 09:04

thanks ladies....absolutely don't want to jeopordise my family life..... I wonder if this is linked to DH's apparent lack of "drive" (IYKWIM) in the bedroom department

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trice · 27/12/2006 09:56

If you were a bloke fancying the new girl in the office and then blaming your other half for not being forthcoming enough in the bedroom department we would all get rather cross with you.

Please feel free to have a healthy fantasy life but perhaps you should put a little of that effort into bringing some romance back into your marriage?

trice · 27/12/2006 09:56

I didn't mean that to sound quite so prudish - sorry.

DimpledThighs · 27/12/2006 10:31

I think steppy sarted this as a light hearted what has come over me thread, more than I am going to have an affair thread.

don't feel guilty, and as for bedroom action there is a drought in my house too - can't help my hormones taking charge of my brain!

NOELallie · 27/12/2006 11:23

Steppy! tut!

Nowt wrong with lusting after as long as it just stays in your head. BTW if you want a lustproof handyman I could ask the old lady next door if her chap has any days going spare ..... I challenge anyone to fancy him!! And we're not too far from you....

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Steppy1 · 27/12/2006 20:22

Hiya NOELlallie, how are you ??

Dimplethighs you're pretty much spot in with how the thread was started... a little bit tounge in cheek after a surprising reaction to our "young man" (He IS lovely !!) I would NEVER get involved in an affair with somebody that was married or in a long term relationship..having been on the receiving end of 3 during 2 marriages it is awful and I would NEVER do that to another woman...but a little bit of fantasy doesn't do anybody any harm in my book.....I met his girlfriend yesterday and she is a lovely women too though fortunately I havn't been lusting after her !!!!!

NOELALLE....did you have a good Christmas, hope you did...would love to meet up in the new year if you're up for it...maybe Lady Mc.B would like to join us !!!

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NOELallie · 28/12/2006 10:50

I'm fine thanks Steppy. Fatter and more broke since Christmas but what they heck.... I had a good time. Meet up sounds good. Kids or no kids? Lady M...where are you?

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