Anyone up? Please help

[Ladywithababy1]

I'm in floods of tears. My husband is out drinking with strangers he met at a bar. He is reusing to come home. He says it's because of stress at work and of having to collect DS from nursery every day and at lunchtimes one day of the week. I feel like I am a single parent at the moment. He has done this a lot recently. I work full time also. I feel completely disrespected and unsupported. But I am scared of being alone too. Sorry if this is rambling. Feel so alone.

Thanks Holly! Unfortunately as he is pissed he will not wake for anything. DS now up for the day. Husband will sleep all day. He tried to tell me I wasn't being supportive to him about his business just now...

When people have alcohol problems they always look for someone or something to blame. Someone is an alcoholic if their excessive drinking affects other people and causes problems. So your dp is an alcoholic. All that about you not supporting him is bullish## to move the responsibility onto you. Of course his business is in difficulty as he is missing whole days while he is too drunk to go to work. You were wise not to engage with him when he had drink taken as that road leads to disaster. You are not responsible for this. He has a drink problem fair and square. Do you have any family you could go to? Look up Alanon online as they can help you..not him. I'm sorry you and your little one are going through this but it's not your fault. Mind yourself

Id put cling film over the toilet bowl as a present for today.

I will definitely speak to Alanon thank you. I am lying here absolutely drained with exhaustion. DS chatting away in his room. At least I know I will get a lovely smile from him when I go and get him!

And sothat I like your style

People without alcohol problems also blame other people for their problems. THat may be another excuse.

Just imagine him too pissed to notice the cling film and his piss bounces and sprays everywhere and him cleaning it up.

If only I could be sure he would clean it up!!!

Men like that would just leave it for the op to clean though sothat

Op he is treating you like a mug. He has learnt if he creates a tantrum then he can go out and leave responsibility behind and get his own way.

My ex-husband was like that. I could regale you of numerous stories about his antics whilst drunk and leaving things to me. Leaving him with my boys was the best thing I ever did. They have a good relationship with him- eow and holidays. Please think of your long term happiness.

of course.....he would just leave it.

lady you sound totally drained and no wonder. Your husband should be a source of support but it sounds like your relationship is a one way street with him being the only one whose needs are being met.

Can you make an appointment to see a solicitor? Many will provide half an hour free of charge. You may not be ready to leave, but having the relevant information will empower you and stop some of the worry and uncertainty.

I'm going to do just that little I think forewarned is forearmed so just to have some practical advice from a legal perspective would be a great start. On second large cup of coffee. Only another twelve to go!

I'm separated. It's hard on your own but at least you don't have an extra man child to deal with everyday

You should make a list of all the positives and negative about your relationship. Show it to him. Ask him to explain his behaviour and that you are seriously thinking about leaving him

If someone continually acts like they don't care about you... Then they don't care about you

single that's a great idea, I will do that today. I'm so sick of being treated like a nanny/housekeeper. He bought me an expensive Christmas present but it's not enough. I would give that back in a heartbeat in exchange for some loving support and some sort of indication that I am more than a robot who appears with clean shirts, dinner and my pay cheque.