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He hadn't had a relationship before, aged 37? Nothing at all obviously "wrong" with him but very shy and working long hours at stressful job. Just wondered. I have encountered plenty of cocky lothario types on my life but recently met someone the opposite.

Lots of stories of happy endings from shy starts here which is good to see. Thing is I had been kind of conditioned to thinking most if not all men were super-confident shag-happy chancers, some with plenty of roguish charm. I am not a supermodel and I'm not young either but I've never lacked attention from men and I don't lack it now. He's actually far more good-looking than many of the put-it-about types I've come across, plus intelligent, caring, good job etc. And he has friends albeit scattered due to living abroad then back for periods. I hadn't really thought that a guy with these qualities would have had a normal social life for 17 years of adult life without something happening at some point. Re: the "virgin" question I suspect the answer may be yes, but I don't know. We're certainly nowhere near that yet. Am not sure how I feel about that to be honest.

I know what you mean but I also think you have to see the positives:

• he's not a needy type willing to settle rather than be alone.
• he doesn't care too much about conforming to societal expectations.

These are both good qualities I think. My bf is pretty independent and has a very wide social circle. I would rather that than someone who needs to be in a relationship at all times. Other guys might have more relationship experience but that doesn't necessarily make them good partners.

Re sex - my bf wasn't a virgin but he wasn't really experienced. I suspect I've had a few more partners than him

However the chemistry between us is not something I've experienced before and we're both learning about what the other likes etc. He's desperate to make sure I enjoy myself put it that way!

BIL was 38 when he met his wife through OLD. He's a bit odd, shy, never had a girlfriend before her. They've been married 5 years now, have a baby dd and are so in love it is almost sickening. She's 11 years younger than him and equally odd, but in the same way. He's a lovely guy, and it goes to show that there is someone out there for everyone.