i think my neighbour fancies my husband

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my dh thinks i am hostile! imagining things and being daft!

i cant explain WHY i think she fancies him, she doesnt bat her eyelashes or thrust her bust in his face or anything! but i just get this feeling

its little things, like telling me how nice my dh is. how he is sociable not like her dh, how good he is with our kids, just lots of nice stuff about him.

i just get this feeling when shes in the room with him, like her lust is transmiting thru the air and i can smell it!!!!!!!!! but if you were to ask me what shes DONE that i can say she fancies him because she said/did X, ive got nothing that doesnt make me sound foolish!!!

but i have told dh that hed better watch it because i'll bury her in the back garden and build a patio over her if she so much as sniffs at him.

i dont know how i know, but i know i know and i tell you what, im worried.

My partner and I are polite but distant to our neighbours, and we are private. We are both happier this way. He is really attractive, and occasionaly I sense someone has a crush on him, but as they're not involved in our lives, it never really bothers me. We just have a laugh about it.

If this woman makes you feel uncomfortable, gradually distance yourself away..... for example, when she asks how you are, smile and say everything is great,but got to get going, really busy today.

xx

overdraft - yes actually, that does ring bells! she is very gushing about my dh and calls hers a miserable old tw*t. she compares the 2 of them - mine is sociable, hers isn't, mine is good with kids, hers isn't etc etc! shes also come round drunk with her kids in tow (one of thems a toddler)and stayed till way after any sober person would have wanted small children in bed.

while i would have been happy to say hello and have a natter over the fence, shes really not the sort of person i COULD be friends with, we dont have the same sense of humour (essential imo). she doesnt listen - just talk, you cant have a conversation because she doesnt wait to hear your response to anything she says! she interrupts. constantly. which is one thing that drives me bloody loopy!!!! she swears and she calls her son a shit to his face then laughs like its a joke!

oh and shes after my hubby!

so i havent befriended her, she just comes. i find it impossible to be (openly) rude to someone in my home, so i just sit there listening to her and thinking PISS OFF!

thank you to all contributors. i have listened carefully and am going to piece together from your wise words!

i am going to be distant to reduce the possibility of her feeling comfortable to knock on my door - no more cheery hellos in the morning! - i am going to remember that it is my husband i have to trust not her and that she cant do anything, he can - and work on keeping our marriage so lovely hed turn down someone with jordans boobs, j-los bum, gwen steffanis legs and bills gates bank balance!

but i am going to keep an eye on things, just in case. (forwarned is forearmed and all that!)

thank you for all the perspectives, it really has helped to sort out my feelings on this.

Don't invite this woman into your house or let her invite herself if you don#t feel comfotable with her. I think you should listen to your instincts.

I do think there is a problem with your relationship with dh that needs addressing too - you should be able to trust him. But you still don't need to have women who make you bristle coming into your home

I trusted my husband 99% tbh. she manipulated me enough. He felt sorry for her as I did. She was totally not my kind of person too but like you I couldn't be rude. I am glad you are trusting your instincts. I wish someone had told me what I have told you instead I felt guilty for having horrible thoughts about her can you belive.The first night she suduced dh she brought us both a bottle of drink and invited us around hers for a party. She told us what good friends we were and how she cared about us both. when it came to going home she quickly poured him another large drink. I went home to put the kids to bed. He was very drunk and she made her move. she then started ringing at home when she could see i was out and he got more and more tied up in it all. I wished he had talked to me about it. My dh is so nice natured and kind and very very nieve.