Looking for practical advice as ever. In early stages of separation (EA and some FA, DH in total denial, in fact has accused me of being brainwashed by MN. Oh yes. Brainwashed into believing in mutual respect)
We moved to our current home 3 years ago for my job. DH works 3 days 2 nights away most weeks and then works from home for the rest of the week. When he's working away he stays in his flat which was his "home" when we met. Its about 3 hrs drive or by train from our current house. I sold my flat in a neighbouring city to buy our family house. There's not much in the 3 hours between our city and the central belt. If we're travelling there's a MacDonalds and a pub with a playground to stop at, but the journeys are usually quite stressful as our 2 year old isn't brilliant in the car and we no longer have nice long naps to travel with.
I'm hoping we can work out custody so its not 50/50 as dh has been a very hands off dad as far as general care. I assume DH will go back to his flat in the big city as we get further into the divorce. There's nothing for him where we live, he works in a fairly niche area so unlikely to find a similar job locally. I can't see him buying a flat locally so I'm pretty worried about our poor 2 year old spending 6 hours in the car regularly.
Has anyone managed a reasonable access arrangement with a young child?
I have had 1 night away in the last 2 years and that was 2 weeks ago. DS has always been a poor sleeper due to eczema and allergy rather than me just being a total PFB btw. I don;t think he would be ready for regular nights away but I don't know how good DH will be about thinking about DS not himself.