I'm new and naive I think with dating so would appreciate any advice .
Briefly I met exdh at 17 , was pretty much hurdled into marriage which we stayed in for 25 ish years and have been separated approx 3 years now .
Marriage was mostly unhappy .Thats another story .
I've had one relationship since ( fell big time for someone prob totally unsuitable but we are and will always be friends now .... ).
Anyway I feel like I'm in a good place now to just have a few dates .
My DC are my priority but I have a little free time now and feel happier than I ever have I think.
I'm actually excited ... Having never really dated before until now since I was a very immature 16 .
I'm taking to a few men online .
I went on my first date last week and it was ok .
I wouldn't see him again as potential partner material ....
I think I'm worried about hurting or offending when I suppose in the long term it's better to be honest and upfront .
Anyway I was talking to a man who looked and sounded lovely .
He's basically brought his 3 girls up on his own and now has a bit of time for the first time in years to meet someone .
We talked on what's app a bit .... Great sense of humour .
Then he got quite full on after just a few days, saying .... Your the last thing I think about at night and first thing I think about in the morning .
He can't wait to look into my eyes and get to know me .
I could be the next chapter in his life .
I was really looking forward to meeting him until he became so full on .
He's a totally different man to anyone I'd normally go for .... Lives in the country,great cook and bakes amazing cakes !
However I have a feeling he is I love with the idea of being in love ..... I'm in a good place right now and while I don't want to fall in love ( it will be great if it happens ) I want to experience dating for the first time .
I think ( tell me if I'm wrong ) I'm approaching it from a healthier attitude now I'm happy on my own .
As I've never really done this I'd really like to enjoy meeting differrent people, making friends, maybe more ( am a bit old fashioned ) if romance follows but I think he's looking way too deeply into this .
I feel bad because I've ignored his last two messages this weekend to try and get the message across that I don't want to be talking to him all day and evening .
I did suggest he'd never met me and needed to basically back off a bit and he just replied that it was what was on the inside that counted and I was the one for him !
I'm supposed to meeting him for a drink tomorrow evening .
Should I go ?
He s obviously vulnerable and in a selfish way I don't need that now I'm back on my feet .
Thanks