Really pissed off with dp

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2 YO woke up before us and we must have left the salt in the living room and he poured it everywhere.
DP got in a massive mood, told toddler off, shous at me because I said I hope he hasn't eaten any it will make him sick
"Well I'm not going to fucking hospital". OK, well I didn't even say to go to hospital I just said I hope he hasn't eaten any and we should keep an eye on him because it could make him throw up.
Then he went back to bed. Even though I was the one up with him last night (again)
And had taken him to my mums the whole of yesterday so dp had a day to himself.
And dp slept until 11am yesterday when I got up with DS.
I can't explain exactly why I'm pissed off but it has really pissed me off.
Why would your first instict be to say you're not going to hospital? Instead of worrying about DS?
I know there's no way DS would have eaten enough salt to overdose on it because he's be throwing up and it tastes disgusting etc, but surely a normal first reaction is to worry?not have a go at me for worrying

Don't worry too much about Lea they've piped up negatively with irrelevant comments on a few posts I've read lately. It seems they are a troll or relentlessly grouchy

I also believe it was an accident. Sounds like you don't get much rest and forgetting to put something away is easy done when you aren't sleeping.

Keep an eye that DP's behaviour doesn't revert back to the 'usual'

Well I would clearly be annoyed to. He puts the fault on you and he is not doing in fair share.
I feel you may have to communicate clearly to him your expectations.

I still think he acted selfishly and like a wanker, but I'm tempted to give the benefit of the doubt this time because he did apologise and looked like he felt genuinely bad

Fine words accompanied by an appropriate facial expression, but what has he actually done today? Has he blitzed the flat, taken the trash out, cooked lunch/dinner, entertained ds, charmed the socks off your dsis and cousin, and undertaken ds's bedtime routine before sitting down to watch tv/follow his own pursuits?

My XP used to be like this.
Note the X.

Lea you are like a walking, talking sidebar of shame

What a bitter, cold hearted individual you sound. I feel sorry for you.

Godess, well he did take the trash out and wash up, do dinner for DS, clean the kitchen,got up with DS last night and this morning and is getting DS ready for nursery. I have uni today so he has DS.
He does usually help with this stuff the problem is just his moods in the morning sometimes it's like he's a different person in the morning or something. And sometimes I think he can be a bit lazy but other times very helpful so its quite confusing. We haven't lived together long (he is DS's dad though, but we didn't live together because we hadn't really been together long when ds was born and I wasn't sure about the idea of living together straight away really)
So maybe he just isnt used to how hard toddlers can be.
My sister and cousin are 12, so not an EA thing why I thought he'd moan about them being here, just caue theyre very loud and maybe a bit annoying but it was fine