Today I have had a barrage of "poor me's" as well as some choice language, because I had the temerity to tell him how our 10 year old was feeling about her weekends with her dad.
I gave him a heads up so he could discuss it with her & clear the air - she was feeling like his girlfriend (who was the ow) takes priority over her & that their weekends together have been spent preparing for his holiday with her. My DD has told me for quite some time that if he marries the girlfriend/has babies with her, she never wants to see him again.
I've always tried to put across a balanced view - grown ups need to do stuff at weekends as they're busy in the week, you get on with his girlfriend so them getting married wouldn't be a bad thing etc.
I was left shaking & on the verge of tears after several angry messages from exh - along the lines of my life is really difficult, I can't afford to buy a house as I'm supporting you & the kids, me & GF don't get enough time together etc.
To put a context on this, our divorce is finalised, I have a mescher order in place so he pays our mortgage for the next 14 years. He earns 100k a year & the GF will probably earn 25-35k. He has 2 weekends on with the kids, one off - this was agreed as he lives over 90 miles away, therefore no midweek stopovers & no help for me with school/nursery pick ups & drop offs. I teach 3 days a week & it's pretty full on. So, he has his kids for 6 days a month - I have them for the other 24+. He earns, in 6 weeks, what I earn in a year.
I chose not to respond to his messages as there is no point - he will never change. I personally think that the consequences of his actions (an affair when our youngest was 4 months old) are coming home to roost & he, quite frankly, needs a grow a set & accept where he is & his responsibilities.
I'm not really asking any questions - just needed to bloodywell tell someone or just vent.
With him, it's all "me,me,me" & the things he said & did with his affair, affected me deeply & profoundly. But I have moved on - picked myself up, dusted myself off & got on with my life. So, why can't he do the same?
He comes to pick the kids up tonight & im dreading seeing him. He did send an apology message but again, it was all about him.
Wanker 