DP really draining

[PooDogMillionaire]

I'm 9 weeks pregnant with DC number 4.

DP has had a very bad back for 6 months and is often in pain. He's also tired and very stressed from work most of the time. He also has stomach problems which are worse when he doesn't take his medication. He also has a lot of stress with an ex partner surrounding custody of his DC. He is also quite clingy and gets very grumpy if we don't have sex every day/other day.

I feel very drained and am sick of looking at his miserable face or constantly having to sympathies with one problem or another.

I find it consuming enough caring for my DC and ferrying them around without having to constantly be trying to resolve some issue around our relationship or make allowances because he's tired or ill.

Do I sound really horrible?

That is really horrible, the way you write that it's like you are having sex with him out of a sense of duty - we are not in the dark ages anymore, you can say no OP. Who would want sex with a miserable lazy git like him anyway, just stop allowing him to dictate what you do with your body, it's wrong.

Someone with a very bad back will usually find their movement and mobility very restricted.

How then, is he able to apparently have sex, especially with such frequency. I call bullshit on that one.

I think it likely that op is expected to do all the "work" during sex.

If I had a bad back, constant pain, chronic stomach problems and lots of stress, sex would be the last thing on my mind....

I gotta add my voice to the wanting sex virtually daily even tho he's supposedly got a bad back thing That's shockingly selfish and I simply wouldn't oblige. Fuck that!
You need to find a compromise on that plus everything else, and sharpish! You need your rest and quality sleep in your condition plus with 3 kids. That should be the main role of the bedroom, not shagging. If he's got a problem with it he knows where the sofa is!!

No, but he sure does.

He gets 'very grumpy' if you don't have sex with him every day? So basically give it up or face his wrath, eh?

What a lovely man.

So he has a bad back other than for his daily shagging?

Nice

He cannot be that bad OP. You had 3 children with him and are getting ready for a fourth. If you have chosen to have four children with this guy he just have some qualities. Or am I missing something?

daily sex with a bad back ?UGH