Hormones/libido going apeshit over someone you work with?

[Pingu1975]

How do you deal with it and what does it mean?? And how do you know if someone feels it back, what are the signs?

What about lunch times?

I find it a bit tricky to be seductive with a bacon sandwich hanging out of my chops we do occasionally do lunches out, but for some reason that makes me twice as nervous

I know what you mean! I think you shouldn't focus on being seductive. Focus on building a friendship and spending time together and then you'll get a better idea about what's going on. It's just lunch, really. But when you get on well and both enjoy spending time together... who knows what will happen?

suggest a cinema trip - is Carol still showing??

Oh Christ if I focused on being seductive she will think I'm on glue. But I will take your advice and try with this friendship malarky, while attempting not to accidentally manhandle anything

Carol?

It's a film starring Cate Blanchett and Rooney Mara -

Have just googled I am blatantly out of touch with all this

After work drink? Especially easy to suggest after a tough day in the office? (if you don't have tough days you need to make one!)
Have fun

Don't worry about trying to set up a date scenario. Just go somewhere together, away from work, and relax. If she is attracted to you it will gradually become clear. And don't feel nervous about 'knowing what to do' as things progress. As someone who's been in your shoes, I know that when it comes to it, it's amazing how natural and simple it is.

Do tell Mirth

For me, the object of my affection is gay. We became close at work and I was confused about my intense feeling of attraction to her. I had never even thought about kissing a woman let alone sleeping with one! And I'm the same sort of age as you Pingu! I'm not a hugely tactile person but absolutely craved her physical closeness and she responded, gradually, to that. It was a (very) slow process as we both took our time to be sure that the other felt the same. The first kiss was the best, warmest, sexiest of my life. Intimacy with another woman feels like it's familiar but still mind blowing. Like going to New York where you recognise the landmarks but being there is 100 times as intense as you could have imagined. Just smile at her, be nice to her and if she touches you respond in the same way. If she's attracted to you she'll be watching for the signs from you.

How did said first kiss occur? Never mind me digging for juicy details are you still together?