My Husband, who works away from home in the week, has just officially "left". As before his departure, he speaks to the children in the evening on the phone. My children are very distressed at his departure, as they miss him anyway and will see less of him. My Eldest (9) is beginning to be manipulative about her food intake and was refusing to go into School today. In the end, we brokered an agreement that I could be called at any time (bar one hour when I was unavailable) and the Head of School would check in regularly to see how things were going. I phoned and checked and also checked at the end of the day. She has been quiet and tearful but we got there. Her Father calls in the evening and asks how her day was and she says "Fine." What do I do? Do I tell him of her distress over his leaving and what it is causing her to do; do I not bother, as he has shown no particular interest in or awareness of his role in previous manifestations (e.g. the previously dry 4 year-old wetting herself day and night and the 9 year-old wetting herself twice in a week and the whispered fears of the 7 year-old whose sleep is disturbed by nightmares); do I tell their paternal Grandparents or what? Irritatingly, they behaved immaculately and slept well over the w/e with him at his Parents', whereasonably I am getting the tantrums, violence, broken nights and howling for their "Daddy". Genuinely not sure what to do for the best.