Pack his things?

[tessie31082]

Hi all, I'll try to be brief!
My DP (soon to be ex-DP?) and I split for 7 weeks last October (thread on here somewhere)! I took him back after we discussed where I felt the relationship wasn't working etc.
All was quite good until xmas. Last week I discovered he'd spent £165 on online betting since Boxing Day - leaving £14.59 - sky payment still to come out of £40 (since been declined by bank)! He has borrowed £100 from somewhere (advance on wages or his dad or colleague from work) - he told me he had it after I text him to say 'well done for spending all your money'. Now he has arranged to go to golf tomorrow even though we have no money and he's using the borrowed money that will need to be paid back on Thursday when he gets paid.
We have a DS who is nearly 3, we should be doing family things not him going off when there is technically no money. He knows I'm not happy - we've not had a conversation since last Tuesday. He asked me about going to golf, I said he shouldn't, he asked me again on Tuesday and I said 'I can't believe you're still on about going' and then not mentioned since. I've just come to bed and his golf clothes are out so I guess he's still going.
I think if he goes I'm going to pack his stuff into some black bags and dump them at his parents house 3 doors down - aaarrrggghhhh!
What would you do??!!
Thanks for reading such a long post :/
Tessie

Of course I don't know the man, but don't anticipate trouble. I expect it'll take a few days for the dust to settle before he asks to have DS. When he does, try to have a calm discussion with him of what you expect; no smacking, no getting physical in anger or frustration. Let him know that if DS comes home with stories of being spanked or grabbed you will have to think twice about him having DS again.

If he's going to be at his parents do you feel that they will keep an eye on the situation? Would they be open to you calling them to express your concerns?

Given your concerns, do you feel you should talk to a solicitor about residency and access orders? I may not be using the right terms as I'm in the US. Normally I'd say primary custody and visitation.