Any other woman who love too much? Love Addicts? Fallout girls?

[stillhaveabruise]

Is there anyone else here who dientifies with the pattern of falling for unavailable men and downplaying their flaws to make love work - ending up disrespected or unhappy and lacking the abilty to make better choices?

Maybe coming from an abusive or difficult childhood.

For me it is not obvious...I don't pick obvious bad boys and generally choose overtly loving nice men who for one reason or anyother don't fully meet my needs or who might be narcissistic or have commitment issues which prevent me from expericing real love.

Would love anyone else like me to maybe join the thread.

Mr Burns From The Simpsons look alike who I didn't even want at first who treats me like shit!

This isn't helpful but that made me laugh.

I think there is something in this though. Treating us like this makes them seem so much better than they really are doesn't it. If there was none of that baggage then maybe they wouldn't seem half so attractive

yes exactly

I knew him ages and didn't even like him. I thougth he wasn't funny, had bad grammar, was a bit thick, was unnatractive and socially inept and thought I would be embarrassed to introduce him to my friends.

As soon as he started treating me like shit he turned into Brad Pitt in my head!!!

Mr Burns to Brad Pitt. It is a thing though. I think it's what that PUA/negging stuff is based on. Except that instead of having a drunk man trying this in a bar, we get it all day everyday for years.

All I want is someone who loves me and cares about how I feel. I know I'm not such a bad prospect. I've got a great job, I'm fairly attractive (pretty face, too much wobble) and I'm usually quite amusing. But literally none of that makes any difference if I can't get out of this cycle.

I feel the same fastday

If anyone wants to join forces and get in the space of supporting each other for change let me know.

I'd be happy to meet in RL or maybe keep in touch in some way if people wanted to. I really don't want this to be my life anymore.

I just want to find someone nice attractive!!!

Mine looks like a dumb chimp.....yet here I am burning my heart out.

Doesnt look like he has ever been faithful to anyone.

If you saw mine you'd not believe it!

And the one before.

I even watched him walking away from a date thinking "what a dick"

Yet still obsessed over him

He spells "tongue", "Tonge"

Ladies you're making me laugh! Unfortunately mine is articulate, educated, not traditionally handsome but I fancy the arse off him, does take me out when he says he will. I have met the family, holidayed with the daughter, holidayed with him alone. We don't argue, we do disagree calmly, he's patient, kind and funny. Generous and selfless. The perfect relationship as long as I don't get hung up on never hearing the words I love you.

Seems such a small hiccup which is why I ignore it but then it looms large again. Wish it didn't matter so much to me. Oh yeah and he's still bloody married!!!

Mine is educated and articulated and I do really fancy him. He isnt traditionally good looking though.