My girlfriend has been texting and Skyping other guys who are interested in her. I've never seen or looked at the texts/web chats but I feel uncomfortable with it. She has mentioned them but when I have asked she dismisses it as friendships from before we met. Some of these guys have asked to meet up with her or to go on a skiing trip alone. She has said no stating that they might overpower her but to me it seems like she is almost welcoming the attention, and the nature of the friendships seems questionable (can't a guy and a girl just be friends?) It's probably not relevant but some of these guys are from her home country.
I just have a bad gut feeling about it. I know she hasn't cheated on me. But I'm very weary when it seems like a girl is encouraging unusual male attention. I told her it was a red flag for me and I felt horrible in doing so because it felt like I was making an accusation even though I wasn't. What made it worse for me is that she sometimes mixes the details of these friendships when we spoke of them. For example, she hadn't met up with one guy for 3 years and then it changed to last summer. She has a photo album on her computer called "hotties" and the thumbnail was a webcam shot of a guy (Skype call perhaps?)
I had a bad experience with infidelity last year and I am worried that the pain and anxiety that provoked will return. Maybe I am the one with the problem?
Our relationship is not public on social media at her request. I am late in my late 20s and she is in her early 20s so I guess we may have different views on relationship conduct. We agreed to be committed despite me offering the chance to have a non-committed relationship (something which in hindsight would have been completely against my values).
Again, this could just be me - I have felt some insecurity at the beginning of every relationship I've been in. I just want a normal committed partnership. I just want to feel okay. Should I just forget it and try to get over it or is there more to talk about?