Hi
Ive been reading these threads for a while but never joined, I finally decided to post on here because I feel so worthless in my relationship and have no one to talk to about it and looking to see what an outsider would make of it.
I am sat here alone again because my partner of 8 years has put himself first again. The first couple of years we were together he used to spend a lot of time with me and we got on great, we moved in together after a couple of years and now have 2 beautiful children together.
However in the last couple of years things have been going downhill gradually and it's got to the point where me and the kids never see him.
He starts work early so is out of the house before me and children wake up, he then goes to his friends straight from work and doesn't roll in the door until gone 10pm every night. He doesn't come home for dinner, when he does finally come in he doesn't ask how I or the kids are just acts like nothing is wrong,he'll have a smoke and falls asleep.
Plus every weekend he spends all his time with his friends and leaves me to do everything with the kids 24/7, 7 days a week.
When I try to confront him over his behaviour and ask why he doesn't come home, he tells me to stop nagging, he will say I'm trying to control him and tell him what to do.
Then tells me I can't tell him when he can see his friends and he will do and go where he wants.
I asked him did he not want to be in this relationship anymore and he said he does, he loves me and will change, spend more time with me and the kids and made me 1001 promises but never followed through on any of them.
I just feel so lonely and worthless like Me and our children are not enough for him. Has anyone ever been in a relationship with anyone so selfish?