H is leaving his gf

[sykes]

My h is leaving his gf this evening - he's said he's doing this before and has failed to do so. However, I actually believe him this time - mind you believed him the last time. Maybe I'm rather stupid and naive. BUT, if he does how shall I handle it. Have told him has to live on his own for at least six months, we need to do counselling etc, etc. But any short term advice much appreciated. I've also been seeing someone for the last three months and am making a very confusing issue even more confusing.

I'm sure he could rustle one up - HA ... he's a chef. No pun intended.

sykes - brilliant timing - we're having a night out on the 5th of june - have a look at the barnet-watford-st albans eve out thread. would be great if you could come

it's the Herts/Watford/Barnet evening meet-up thread you need - but we are meeting in St Albans!

Oh, that's nice but am staying with friends so can't - bit rude if I bog off and leave them to babysit. Maybe next time - the idea is that EVENTUALLY am moving back to Hertford - lived there for nine years, moved to Surrey three years ago.

Shame I look forward to meeting you when you move back.

Thanks, Kayleigh, made a complete exhibition of myself at a mnet meet up in Richmond - you won't miss my drunken company.

Oh, Sykes, I'm going to be out all day and evening on the 5th. I daren't expect the family to fit round my social life on the Sunday too, not fair on them.

But I noticed you put your name down for Beety's field so we'll sit and get drunk round the campfire together then!

Marvellous - have a lovely time.

ooh, i'll be in Beety's field too sykes, so will meet you then

Sykes, you don't have to do anything. OK, so he's leaving his mad, fruitloop girlfriend. Until such time as he says he wants to start working to put your relationship back on track, you need take no action. He walked away from you and your girls because he was infatuated with another woman, just leaving her doesn't hold much significance after all this time.

If it was me I'd carry on with my life as it is, see who you like, when you like, and stick to whatever access arrangements you've had so far.

If he wants you back, then I'd guess he has to work for it. I'd want to be wooed, dated, and very VERY reassured before I'd let him back to the privileged position of being your husband again.

I know how much it hurt when he left. And I guess you do want him to come back (or you wouldn't be asking). But I guess you've got to make sure you know, it will probably never be the same relationship again.

Hope you get what you want

LOL

Aw Sykes, they are only teasing you about the meetup! don't take it to heart.

Thanks all. Just had an e-mail saying he left her yesterday evening. But as everyone says - so???? Anyway, have a great night out tonight and am staying at a friend's - thanks once again.

Blimey, that's a good question innit?

Hadn't hought of that.

Or thought of it...

Thinking of you sykes. Agree with all who say don't give up the young man yet and wait and see what transpires.

Hello, he's staying in a hotel and is looking for a flat to rent until the end of the year, he says. I do qualify everything.