You're not pretty she then laughed. ^You'll never win any beauty contests^

[SoleBizzz]

I have just remembered my Mother saying this to me a few times when I was little. I was being bullied at primary school about my apperceive at the time.

I am currently watching 'The Sopranos' and Tony is talking about his Mother a lot. This could have triggered my memory.

I feel that was cruel of her to say even if truthful.

Am I being over sensitive for this memory to bother me?

Some parents see their children as extensions of themselves. If they hate themselves, then they take that out on their children. It's no consolation but it's worth remembering that all the nasty things they said/thought about you they probably thought that about themselves. It's a horrible way to live.

I don't recall specific comments by my mum but there was a lot of teasing and the 'oh you're too sensitive' when I got upset.
Her mother was very critical of her and although she hated that and has a poor view of her own mother I think she has unwittingly continued to do similar.
I am very aware of this and try to monitor myself in relation to my children.

I remember drawing anti-smoking posters (focusing on the health risks) when I was 10 and putting them up all over our house, because my mum smoked a lot and I didn't want her to. After a while I asked her if she'd seen them and she said yes. I asked her what she thought and she said "I don't go around putting up posters about how fat you are."

It took me 20 years to realise that this was not a logical and reasonable response to the situation :( suffice to say I wouldn't dream of saying such a thing to my own kids.

I think parents just never used to realise how much kids take things to heart, or else they thought that being sad as a child was normal because they had been so themselves. We must be one of the first generations to say 'It stops here.' Hooray, says I.

Your mum was very mean op

My DM has said some truly horrid things about me and dsis over the years all done out of earshot of anyone so when challenged she would tell everyone we were lying, still does now.
When she saw her gd (dsis DD) for first time she sniggered and told dsis that her DD had a nose just like hers (after years of poking fun at dsis nose, when actually there's nothing wrong with it)
It's taken years to try build up our self confidence and worth.
What a bitch.
I feel for everyone of you that have had similar experiences

I am glad you realise that you have to be your own best friend as well as your worst critic. I know your posts and you seem a likeable, grounded individual doing the best they can caring for a disabled child.
I hope that you can do as more for yourself as you can and get to know and like yourself too.