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My DP keeps hinting at proposal

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mamapoppins23 · 12/01/2016 23:53

I feel very excited and a little confused, DP and I to clarify haven't been together long at all but honestly have never felt so happy or connected with someone. I'm lots more confident since I met DP, he's very loving, romantic, kind and so wonderfully sensitive. Sounds a bit mad, but I knew I wanted to marry him after our first night together which was actually subsequently my first time Smile. I get on really well with his family, particularly his Mother and when I fell pregnant at only being with him two months, we were both over the moon. We are madly in love with one another and I and have no doubts about him whatsoever and think if this had been with someone else, don't think I would of been overjoyed to be pregnant after such a short period of time. Anyway he keeps hinting that he wants to marry me, that he wants to make me his wife and these days my head is spinning. I don't want to rush this because things have progressed so fast without us meaning to, and just feel as if we are simply meant to be. I know he's been looking at rings and wants to save up for a decent one. Other night he said that he doesn't want to rush this but he doesn't want to wait too long.... He's even hinted to his Mum and to be honest, all of our loved ones I think are expecting it. I know I'm going to say yes wholeheartedly just uh not sure when he's going to propose. I would like to wait till the baby, but then again umm I don't know Confused, I've never been in love or pregnant before. He's one for romantic surprises for example brought me flowers in bed one morning and think he'll catch me completely off guard! Flowers

OP posts:
BitOutOfPractice · 13/01/2016 09:37

Having just read your other threads OP I feel rather worried about you. I know that's not the done thing but you really do need to get very clear headed about the situation you are in and the situation you are bringing your baby into.

How do you propose to support the two of you without a job? Where will you live? These and other large issues need to be sorted before you start worrying about flowers in bed and whether the rind will be nice

firesidechat · 13/01/2016 09:50

My previous post wasn't intended to downplay the pain of a marriage ending and divorce. Of course it's terrible, but having children with someone requires equally as much thought, if not more.

pocketsaviour · 13/01/2016 10:00

I too have had a look at your other threads and I am a bit concerned OP. Are you living with your DP or are you still in supported accom?

Will his Mum be supportive when the baby arrives? It doesn't sound like you have family support on your side :(

Legally speaking you and the baby will be better off if you marry, so if you're having a baby together then I see no reason not to marry (unless you have doubts about the relationship.) As PPs have said, a baby is far greater a committment than a marriage!

Notagirltomarry · 13/01/2016 14:58

My friends DH proposed after 4 weeks and they married 7 1 year later, 3 kids and 12 years later, still very happy

mouldycheesefan · 13/01/2016 15:00

Oh gosh is this the op that had some severe mental health challenges, set fire to her house and is now in supported accommodation?

ImperialBlether · 13/01/2016 15:01

AyeAmarok: I agree with you about the contraception. I was a teenager in the 70s and it was absolutely fantastic to have free contraception. Now it's even better with free morning after pills, yet there are so many people who get pregnant without a thought about whether they can afford it or whether their relationship will last. I find it really depressing.

firesidechat · 13/01/2016 15:11

Yes it is mouldy.

mouldycheesefan · 13/01/2016 16:52

Op are you getting much support from your social workers and midwives at the moment? I hope they are taking good care of you and your mental wellbeing and that the right support for you and baby are in place. Good luck for the future.

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