My sister and I fell out 5 years ago over an email she sent about my wife that mistakenly found its way to me. Lots of pent up gripes were aired and we just fell out and didn't speak.
It really upset my mum and whilst I felt she was in the wrong, for mum's sake I have held out the olive branch 2 or 3 times since, only to be ignored.
Mum has a big birthday coming up so I decided again to contact and reach out. I called her and she answered and asked if anything wrong. I said no all good, just wanted to catch up about Mum's birthday and look to see what we could do for her. She cut me off as she was busy so said she'd call me back. She didn't but texted me a couple of days later saying for me to just sort stuff out with my family and they'd work around it. I texted back and said I though mum would want to see us both so maybe we should look at discussing that. She cut me off completely and said no, she will do something separately. I looked back on my messages and they were nothing but conciliatory, polite, nice and reaching out.
For me, I can take or leave her, but I am not doing this for me but my mum who is getting on in years and would love nothing more than her 2 children to get on and at least speak and her not to be caught in the middle.
I won't be able to tell my Mum, although I feel she should now that yet again I have had the olive branch thrown back at me, because she shuts me down as soon as I try to explain anything about the situation - I think deep down she doesn't want to hear that her daughter has acted wrongly in any way.
Any ideas as to what to do, or should I just leave it?