Abusive husband won't leave

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My husband is abusive to me and my kids and me in front of the kids I have been keeping a list of all the things that have happened over a while now.
We have four children quite young so I am worried about the effect it has on them, my boy aged 7 does misbehave a lot at home but is apparently an angel at school!! My oldest daughter just turned 10 has a "distant relationship" with her farther I would say apparently she was insolent at the grand old age of 2! He shows little or no affection to her and if I say to him something like "give her a hug (because it's her birthday) he will take massive offence and say to me you are not my mother! Whatever that is supposed to mean?? He has little time for me no affection for me, he has his own business and I have mine although jam not allowed to have full charge in case I don't do things properly or spend all the money! I would say he is neglectfull with the kids too - last month when we went to centre parcs he took my 2 and 3 year old swimming (and if any of you know centre parcs it has a massive swimming area with different areas pools slide etc...) whilst I took the older ones to a pottery class then later joined him when I walked in he was some distance from me and I saw him walking off without my little ones so I shouted him but of course because of the pool noise he couldn't hear, he had LEFT them in the pool to go to the toilet!!!!!!! I was furious about this but he just said I needed the toilet and told me to stop going on!!
He has left them in the lounge with fire on guard but not fitted whilst he has gone outside to do some cleaning that could of waited till I got home. The list goes on. He "F's and blinds and says the other day he couldn't give a shit - surely his life must be miserable but he won't go he has not been violent he has manhandled me once giving me a large bruise which I have no photo of. He has taken shopping money off me. I just wish he would go as it is making me feel very depressed and like I think it must be me doing something wrong. He won't go to relate apparently they don't know what they are talking About but I have been about my sons behaviour he didn't have time to go !! He buries his head won't talk.. I'm at a loss what to do any advice obviously there are lots more to say....

Have you spoken to Women's Aid yet?

Can anyone give me the number for women's aid I am now ready to go through with thinks he has been particularly nasty and aggressive to me now and things are escalating He has told so many lies about HIS money that he hasn't got! And has said that he is going to stop working and go on the sick cos he couldn't give a shit all in front of my little one I'm a shaking mess at the moment. I have a lot to sort out as I have my own business but the bank where the money goes into is joint (only so he has control). My name isn't on his account for his business. I said his earning potential if far greater than mine and his reply was no I won't be able to work I'll go on the sick u won't get a penny I'll fight you for everything the list goes on. I do appreciate all advice but afraid of having no RL help as such.

Anyone have have number for women's aid

0808 2000 247

Hope you are on the phone to them. I understand about the business but you need to leave. If he won't leave and has the chance of being violent again then you need to leave. There are places where women's aid can take you in until you can get something permanent. Go set yourself up a single bank account, get your tax credits an child benefit moved over to it. You can build a new business once you are settled somewhere else but the damage that will contNiue to be done to yourself and your children will be getting harder and harder to repair.

OP, this worries me - it looks like he has found you on here"

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/2727665-Two-Side

Thank you so much x

Are you ok OP? I didn't see what he posted but the fact that he posted on here isn't great!
Do ring women's aid when you get the opportunity.

Thank you I will do he has admitted lying about the swimming incident I have proof but don't want to say more we never bloody met anyone at CP.
he has become particularly nasty making threats etc etc. one min quite nasty then next unbelievably nasty, don't think any going back now. He's currently watching TV had his t and no more said but that could all change in the blink of an eye. Thank you for support xxx

Need to name change?? Not sure how x