What do you all think??

[happyatlast]

I've been seeing my dp for 6 months now, he lives about 40 miles away from me, and every day after work he has been coming to mine and staying over and then leaving again in the morning, he spends every bit of spare time with me apart from when he is working or with his daughter, he talks to me constantly throughout the day on his mobile whilst he is at work, infact sometimes he drives me mad how often he rings me, I thought he was a really decent guy, seems to adore me etc etc, I've met his daughter lots of times, she stays over here with my kids some weekends, I've spoken to his daughters mum too, and spoke to his parents on the phone etc etc and my kids love him and my mum likes him but anyway we met on a site, chatted for a bit then saw eachother on cam and then decided to meet, he told me right from the word go that he wanted a relationship, that he wanted to settle down and get married, he has been the one pushing more for us to get married, he tells me he loves me so many times a day, he says he cant stand when he has to leave me to go to work etc. Things were fantastic until last night when I got a message from the site that we met on saying are you still seeing that snake in the grass and they knew his name and said he was a player basically, now looking at their profile it looks fake cos there is only one picture and she is apparently a glamour model which sounded suss to me and she is your typical blonde and I've typed her profile name in google and she doesnt have any other profiles under that name which again makes me think its not genuine but I then think it maybe is cos she is blonde, slim and tanned like me and I know that is his type and I kind of 70% believe its a fake but then I think well who would do something so horrible if it was a joke?? So, what do you all think about it, if you dont mind me asking?? think i'll change my name to notsohappynow.

??? are you concerned because he seems obsessed with you or because some woman who looks like a glamour model says he is a player? Im confused.

Oh no, I'm just concerned about the message, who sent it, if it was genuine etc.

He doesn't sound like he has any time to be a player! She is probably jealous. However, it sounds like you are not sure about how you feel for him.

I was trying to give an insight into what kins of relationship we have, you know, he doesnt act dodgy in any way so am well shocked about the message and want to rule it out but then I think well what if it is someone genuine?

I dont know, he sounds as if he spends every waking hour with you apart from work, so would it be poss for him to mess around?

Unless she is an old flame out to cause trouble.

Sorry I found it hard to read your post as it was a bit cramped together and I usually just bypass they ones but I think I managed to read it properly anyway .....

sounds like someone is jealous, no idea who obviously but that is what this is [confident]

Maybe someone he met before on-line

Yeh thats what I think, he is always bloody with me, as soon as he finishes work, he comes straight over to mine, well after he has gone his house and had a shower, so he says.I know it sounds daft maybe, but everyone would act the same I would imagine, I dont understand who would want to send something like that if it were just a joke, at christmas time too, last thing I needed, god I'm pissed off.

Yeh sorry about the cramped together post, I realised after I posted it that it looked hard work to read!!

Yes, most definate it is someone who is jealous and who perhpas wants what you have so is going out of their way to make you unhappy.

Best thing to do is ignore it and try to forget about it (easier said than done).

Someone done something like this to me one christmas eve 3 years ago. Speak to him about it and try to move on.

The alternative is she gets what she wants you stay unhappy and have crap Christmas.

Sounds to me like she is a jealous ex. If he stays with you every night & is on amicable terms with his daughter's mum it seems unlikely that he's playing away. Could you confide in his dd's mum?
The only thing that makes me uncomfortable is his ott behaviour telling you he loves you all the time etc. I've never liked that in a man - and most men that appeal to me wouldn't like it from a woman.
Don't let this spoil your Christmas, though. Maybe you'd be better to show the message to him.
Apparently the classic sign of a player is that they are possessive about their mobile phone - does he leave his lying around? If so - he's innocent.

fortyplus, he didnt used to leave his phone lying around until I asked him why his phone is always hidden and on vibrate and so now he does leave it lying around, but hes recently had a new sim card and so I'm thinking maybe they are texting on that.

As for the OTT behaviour, I was the same as you, put me off him to start with but then I thought I've always gone for guys who kind of keep you in the dark and they never worked out so thats why I gave him a go and so far its been ok, I dont know what to think, he saw the message last night cos I was sitting on his knee and I was checking my email and thats how he saw it, he say he has no clue who it could be but he would say that wouldnt he??

HAL - just ignore it. Someone decided to upset you. Maybe he turned them down? Maybe he was a player until he met you. Try to forget about it all.

Can I just say in his defence slightly, he had his phone on him and on vibrate in the past cos he used to be a pro footballer and he bashed heads with another player when he was 22 and it made him deaf in his right ear so he had to keep his phone on him and on vibrate cos he cant hear it often if its just left lying around, but now I tell him if its ringing.

happyatlast - I suppose he would. But at the end of the day you've been together 6 months - even if you found out he'd been playing away at first - if you now believe that he's committed to you would you forgive him for it? I would.

I know what you are saying, he has been calling all morning cos he says he cant concentrate on work but I cant just let it go like that when it only happened last night. I messaged her/him/it back last night anyway saying oh yes I know hes a player, we had a threesome just yesterday and then I said do you think I am stupid you f**king muppett?

I am waiting for a reply now, but the funny thing is that my dp goes for really slim women who are toned, he is a leg man not a boob man and thats why he loves me, I have no boobs( kids sucked them dry) but I do have the legs, whereas this woman in the photo has huge boobs and is clearly not toned or slim enough, so I doubt she is his type anyway even if it were genuine, but still who would send it, somebody has sent it for a reason, am going to try and take my mind off it for a while cos its doing my head in.